I just don't understand why the wife doesn't want to divorce? It's useless to maintain this marriage, pain for both party. If she worry about money and status, come to me, I can support her. I can forgive her all the past if she won't do it again. So it's easy to start a new life. Don't worry too much! By the way, which state are you guys in? Then I might tell you exactly how to do since divorce law is different in diff. State.