根故鄉明月在打嘴仗的那個，麻煩你進來一下

First, I am really impressed that you gave such defensive responses to me--a person trying so hard to be so nice. Your response took guts anyway. Second, I am sorry that I was as harsh as I was to normal people. Some, I still would have said, but I was partly motivated in some of my remarks by the fact that you took strangers’ words home and feel bad yourself.
I'm sorry that you are thinking I said you are an idiot, feeling the pressure being that, and having such a tough time here. I cannot imagine what it must be like to for you, but I think sometimes people feel that way coz we have developed this culture of suspiciousness and selfishness, to some extent, but I have found that many people are really pleasantly surprised when you take some time to chat with them in line, make a funny remark, and really understand them. I think people are so afraid of being judged that they start judging other people, so when someone is friendly to them, they open up unless—they cannot catch up with people beyond their levels.
I would like to make some suggestions: go get yourself a shrink and when you are there, bring these posts with you(no matter what ids you used). BTW, for your convenience, I write this for you in English. What I said about therapy was not motivated by mean-ness. It does sound like you have had some tough times, for whatever reason, I really think it would be helpful for you to talk these things out with someone. As a disclaimer, I have a doctorate in clinical psychology, but I'm not trying to offer professional advice (I'm not licensed yet, anyway). But I said what I did because I have met people who come off as narcissistic only because they are desperately insecure, and they have benefited by exploring the sources of their insecurity and learning ways to accept their own--and others'--flaws. Therapy is a really great way to stop feeling "stuck" and to see that you have options beyond those which you have considered. If you do choose therapy, feel free to ask the therapist questions about their theoretical orientation, background with people of personalities etc. If you do not feel it is a good match, do not be hesitant to tell them why and discuss it. They are in the business of honesty. In addition, I do believe, he/she understands what I said “don’t set up a definition by yourself to judge people” means. I do not want to be rude, but I think my work with you is done here.

I really do wish you the best of luck, and I hope that you feel the way you are best.

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• 看，她原形畢露了吧。裝什麽淑女啊。 -難怪別人說你Low- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/05/2005 postreply 04:58:39

• I dont see anything abnormal -inher- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/05/2005 postreply 06:17:35

• 故鄉明月, Don't DUI NIU TAN QIN -Whoislow- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/05/2005 postreply 06:19:31

• You are so good at English! -Sogood!- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/06/2005 postreply 11:15:16

• Have your IP&ID been Blocked -IQIQIQIQ- ♀ (106 bytes) () 04/06/2005 postreply 11:18:00