過分 or not is not judged by you; it is judged by the two married couple. If the husband does not agree and the wife insists, one of them have to compromise. If similar things happen again and again, I will say they do not fit each other. My assumption is that the husband cannot put up with it anymore and come here for suggestions. If they do not fit each other, the best way for the family, including the wife, husband and child, is to divorce.
Again, 過分 or not is decided by the couple, not by you based on your life experience.
