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I have given a lot of thought, asked a lot of friends about our situation.
You have consistently went back on your word to control your temper every
time you have returned to this home. As much as I do not wish to hurt you
and as much as I wish to believe you when you say you love me, I simply
cannot trust that you would not find something else to get angry about. If
you returned, the following would be required, no more negotiations:
1. The trash cans in the restroom and kitchen will have tops and will be
the standard ones I have used for fifty years. You will not rearrange and
change things again.
2. You will not work, except to help ship out all the haberdashery,
then we shut down the haberdashery for good - not more business. With me
working 55 and more hours a week, I want a wife to come home to.
How could you borrow $3000 from factories again after all the fights
we had before and my instructions that you were to borrow no more
money from people?
3. We will discuss anything and your input will be given value, but when it
comes to the final decision, from now on it will be mine. I am an
intelligent and logical person and you have never respected that always
selfishly wanting everything your way.
4. Unless you just cannot sleep, you will go to bed with me and wake up
with me like a regular wife. Because I work six days straight, we will have
a limited time together, so I want to meet you in the morning and be with
you in bed at night. That is a marriage, not this you on the internet all
night and usually sleeping elsewhere.
5. You will sign pre-divorce agreement that if you lose your temper again,
you get a divorce and you get nothing. Without that agreement being signed,
you will not be allowed to return to this house.
This is not a negotiation. I only require this to protect me from further
abuse. If you do not like this, then I suggest you stay in China. Once
I receive all the goods, I will send you 50% of all gross sales of all
haberdashery until it is all sold, but will not add any more than that
already bought. I will keep 50% and pay expenses of selling it for
the trouble of trying to do that and work too. That way, you will
get more than the $3000 you owe and have some left over to
live on for a year. It is the best I can do.
If these terms are unacceptable and you show up anyway without an
agreement, here is what will happen...
1. You will be arrested immediately for spouse abuse and sent to jail.
2. You will be in court three days later for the restraining order,
escorted in handcuffs by the sherriff's department.
3. You will be in court for spouse abuse and after conviction, deported to
China. Spouse abuse is grounds for removal from the country under
immigration laws, as well as the fact that it is a bad marriage and no
permanent visa will be granted.
4. You will be divorced, finally. The judge who will hear our case is
different now, as the judge who was lenient on your abuse is retiring. The
new judge frowns on women who try to abuse the system and play on his
sympathy.
5. I will sell nothing for you nor help you out. I will fight any alimony,
instead suing you for fraudulently obtaining a quarter million dollars in
medical care by not being up front about your having cancer before
we married. This will offset any claim you have on alimony or
any other claims in our short marriage.
I am not happy having to do this, but friends and relatives alike tell
me that I would be a fool to allow you back into my life only to have
to go through all of this once again, without a written agreement from
you.