SingleCat, you contribut a lot of your thoughts and time here, I got a lot of help from your answers to others. I do appreciate you a lot! Here is my story, just want to share with you ! Happy Holiday for your whole family. Happy holiday for everyone.
This is for私房小菜，美國老土 和 單身老貓, to thanks all you contributions in WENXUECITY.
Wish all of us happiness. Thanks everyone who wrote before. This is my almost first time to write.
Anyway, I am so happy in every single day as a single mother, as a career woman, as a wise man, as a very good and smart solider to challenge myself every day.
我在一個當地的會計事務所工作。前天， 我和老板去一個客人AD的X-MAS晚會。 這個客人是一個MULTI百萬富豪，我從三年前起開始負責他所有的6個公司，他的侄子的2個公司， 他的兒子的1個公司。在交談中，我的老板對AD的律師說： 你看她，到一個外國，帶一個小孩，10年之間，完全靠自己，多成功。。。。。。我當時也很謙虛了幾句。我老板很成功，他是一個PARTNER，有9-10人為他工作。我在他這兒工作了3- 4年。他非常嚴厲。每天從7AM到9PM，如果忙的時候，6AM到12PM。我從來沒有想到他會這樣評價我。更讓我高興的事和感到的事在後麵。AD對員工很好，每年都給每一個員工一個禮品。上一年就給我和我老板一人一瓶WINE。我進會場的時候，就看見一個超級大禮盒子。到了發禮物時，我就對AD說，不要給我了，我不DRINK。然後，他就給我說，今年，我不給你WINE，他就去把那一個最大的禮盒保起來給我，並說他很感謝我的工作。我當時很吃驚，沒有去接。我老板很擔心我拒絕，趕緊說： TAKE IT，TAKE IT。
我才去工作時。有一個音樂家客人告訴老板：可不可以給我一個ENGLISH GIRL，到今天，他和他的兒子告訴老板，他們非常滿意我的工作，非常感謝我的工作。我的另一個MBA Consultant 客人也是如此. Now the clients respect me so much. The boss respects me too.
當天晚上，回家。我兒子替我打開門，第一句話：你客人送你這麽大一個禮物呀。我說：一是客人好，二是你媽媽工作好努力。這是為什麽媽媽經常都沒有時間作好吃的給你的原因。
我老板還不知道我還有一個公司(和2個當地人合夥33股)已經6年了。他知道了會更吃驚。
If my ex-hu*****and doesn’t insist to divorce me, the best, I am going to be some one’s wife. But now, everyday, I have challenges waiting for me. I have a son who respects me so much.
我的孩子問我：媽媽，離婚了以後，什麽事情會發生？
我說：我們就不能到處都打出租車，你的玩具會少一些。但是，我們會帶走微笑去睡覺，帶作微笑起床。
If there is something bad happened in you life, change it into a good thing. This is what I told my son. You don’t have a father with you, then you have a couple of choices. Cry, and feel sad for yourself. Smile, change it into your advantage. Try to do everything by yourself, to be able to take care of yourself, to be proud of yourself. Then to be able to help others.
What I did is : I came to another country, I learned the language, I learned accounting, I started my work from $8. But I am proud of myself, every $1 I made is much valuable than $1 million someone gives to you, even your family members.
This is what I told my son : you mama didn’t spend one day to try to fight with your father how much money he should give it to you. You mama used every single minute to study , to work and to do exercise. Because I come to this new country at 33, I don’t have that much chance. I would never waste my time to figure out how much money I can get from him. I will only invest into myself and you, and our family. I don’t even spend a single day to try to figure out if life is faire or not for me. I just start to control my life , to re-build my life from zero, not feeling sad for myself, no fear of the unknown world. JUST DO IT WITH JOYS and WITH CONFIDENCE.
Your mama works hard and smart, at least, we don’t have financial worries, although I don’t have time to prepare nice meals for you. But we do every day, go to bed with smiles and get up for each single beautiful day with smiles.
My son is in a private school, he is doing very well. When he was 13, I had an operation. I wrote my will to my brother. I didn’t tell anyone; just brought my son with me to go to hospital to have that operation. After the operation, my son took good care of me. He is so proud of himself. I told him, that is it. You changed a bad thing into a good thing. At such a young age, you know how to take care of your mama. He is 14 now, he is 183cm, oh my god, a lot of girls like him.
I am not successful; I am just so happy, everyday, every single day.
I hope next year, my own company could start to manufacture the last step of one product. So in this particular product, we can make higher margin. I hope I will have more complicated customers, or I have to learn higher level of corporate income taxes, like roll over and reconstruction……..I don’t have customers like this. I will continue to improve my English, spend more time with my son…….to do more exercise……..If I can lose 10 lbs………
我好幸福。
10 年前，我33，當兒子才3-4歲時，他爸爸要求離婚，我不同意。因為我22結婚 到33，隻工作過2年，到以後基本上沒有工作過。我都不知道如何生存下去。可惜，他一定要堅持。我就給他說，很多人為了離婚，像仇人。我們都是有很好情操的人。我們不要這樣作。我隻要一個條件：兒子。他知道我對孩子很好。我兒子生下來，有一定問題，為了照顧孩子，我3年沒有照過鏡子。有一天，我照了鏡子，我根本不能相信自己。那一個美麗的姑娘去哪了？我請他把我們已經快辦完的移民辦完。他把我和兒子送來後，他就會中國了。Then, I started my life here, all by myself with all the best support from my family, particularly my mother. My parents took care of my son for 3 years.
