"因特殊原因,在國內姨媽家帶到8歲多" -- are u kidding me??? why do you have the kid in the first place if you cannot give her a normal family! Now you blamed her because you doesn't do yr father job in her first 8 yrs???? Unbelievable!
And for this time, you might be ok, but you're losing her in the end if this goes on, and IT'S NOT HER FAULT!