Child custoday is never an easy issue. It varies from state to state, county to county, even court to court. California for example. Family court judges are supposed to do equity, meaning, they want everything to be equal for both sides. It is never about what the parents want. It is always about what is best for the child. A judge will rule in the best interest of the child. California family court judges, for example, think child should have both parents around so that they most likely to give 50-50.