回複：再次請教小白兔、兩分錢等各位大俠

1. Parolee with both AOS and H1 intention.
2. No very clear-cut answer, however you can always first appeal the decision and then file application to turn your wife back to H4. If your AP is based on EB1, you may need to do the same to get back your H1.
3. Yes, and you better apply for H1B visa as well.
4. Yes, you can go either way.
5. Yes with your H1B approval notice.

Recommendation: get AP at handy, and apply for visa to reduce complication when 140 is not approved.