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人生隨意，隨意人生
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母女之戰，一場永無停止的“戰爭”
家有準TEENAGE----12歲的女兒，每天頭痛如何教育她！你說一句，她可以還上十句，要不，回到她自己的房間，關門，以沉默表示抗議。想當個“後媽”，管她那麽多幹嘛？順其自然唄，可又忍不住自作多情，仍要時不時叮嚀嘮叨幾句，當親媽的心裏方才略覺心安。
幾日前我在家大清掃，從地上撿起幾張紙，紙上密密麻麻寫滿了小字，文章名字：我的媽媽（英文版），大約寫了二千字左右，其中雲：我生她確實幸苦（早產），作為移民，為了生存，在加國也經曆了很多。她對我表示感謝，因為我與她爸沒有向困難低頭，沒有吸煙吸毒酗酒去逃避生活，而是盡力地給她提供必要的條件，讓她作她喜歡的事。筆峰一轉，談到我教育她時，若她不聽從，我總是生氣地說：“我會按照中加兩地法律，把你撫養到十八歲。十八歲以後，你從我家搬出去，我已盡完我的責任。”她說每聽到這句話，她心裏非常難受，因為她不覺得她在十八歲可以自己養活自己，更覺得在這一時刻我是一個她生活中的負麵形象的代表。”看完文章，我心裏感慨萬千，為人母扒心扒肺的對孩子好，為孩子考慮，孩子卻有自己的想法。
女兒下樓，看到我手裏攥了幾張紙，立刻緊張起來：“媽媽，你沒事吧？”我答道：“文章寫得不錯，不過段落表達的不是很清楚。讓別人很難懂你講啥。比如你這篇文章應該分為這樣幾部分：媽媽移民前後的生活，媽媽有你後的生活，媽媽的觀念與你發生衝突時的故事，你自己對媽媽的要求與想法。”女兒點點頭：“大部分的地方，我還是在誇你的。”我答:“不錯，還能寫上二千字，有進步。今天是大清掃日，你是女孩，要學會把自己收拾清爽。你如果不把你的房間收拾整潔，媽媽就進去收拾了。這是我的房子，你把房間收拾好，是對我的尊重與禮貌。我不進去收拾，也是對你的尊重與禮貌，因為你的東西你知道放哪，我挪了，你就找不到了。”女兒皺起眉頭，道 ：“今天不是我的清潔日，我答應過你，我一個星期隻收拾一次我的房間就可以了。你也同意了，今天我房間是怎樣就怎樣。”我無語，想嗬，也是。
女兒下樓，看到我手裏攥了幾張紙，立刻緊張起來：“媽媽，你沒事吧？”我答道：“文章寫得不錯，不過段落表達的不是很清楚。讓別人很難懂你講啥。比如你這篇文章應該分為這樣幾部分：媽媽移民前後的生活，媽媽有你後的生活，媽媽的觀念與你發生衝突時的故事，你自己對媽媽的要求與想法。”女兒點點頭：“大部分的地方，我還是在誇你的。”我答:“不錯，還能寫上二千字，有進步。今天是大清掃日，你是女孩，要學會把自己收拾清爽。你如果不把你的房間收拾整潔，媽媽就進去收拾了。這是我的房子，你把房間收拾好，是對我的尊重與禮貌。我不進去收拾，也是對你的尊重與禮貌，因為你的東西你知道放哪，我挪了，你就找不到了。”女兒皺起眉頭，道 ：“今天不是我的清潔日，我答應過你，我一個星期隻收拾一次我的房間就可以了。你也同意了，今天我房間是怎樣就怎樣。”我無語，想嗬，也是。
翌日，我教她學中文。我說：“暑假，幾日未學中文呢？”她答：“我的中文在班上為A。”我答：“你說過你的中文沒我好，所以你可以不經我的允許就看我的手機，為什麽我不能隨時看你的手機呢？”她答：“我的中文水平沒你高，十個字略懂一半，還有一半猜猜看，八九都是錯的。但你的英文水平高過我的中文水平，略低於我的英文水平，所以我手機上的東西你都看的懂，你手機上的東西我不懂。”這個邏輯水平與 狡辯水平，我這當媽的都得給讚，我又道 ：“不行，我們得平等，你看我的，我就能看你的，你的中文水平不高，你應該學會如何提高它。你的手機我必須監督。”她答道：“好吧！”從此以後，她將手機上所有的郵件及個人信息等設置的密碼為“指紋解密”(她的指紋，我僅可開機)。
今日一高興，她說：“媽媽，我考你一道邏輯題。有十個人，被外星人抓了，外星人讓他們依個子高矮排隊，每個人頭上還得帶頂帽子，由最後一個排入隊中的人開始猜，頭上的帽子是黑色還是白色，他們隻允許犯錯一次，否則全部都被外星人吃掉。你怎麽看？”我看了一下YOU-TUBE，開始發暈，節目中一排卡通小人，不停地變換著帽子，直答：“為什麽不直接告訴有幾頂白帽子還是黑帽子？”女兒答：“不需要，最後一個人最高，他可以看到前麵所有人帽子的顏色，具體幾頂帽子黑色還是白色不重要，答案有很多種，這個題問的判斷的方法，而不是結果，結果有很多個。媽媽，你輸了。”就讓她高興一把，乘熱打鐵,問道：“寶貝，教你首中文詩，好不好？”她答道：“好啊，我考住你了。讓你高興一下。”
不敢教她太深的古文詩，專挑簡單的：
《明日歌》
《明日歌》
明日複明日，明日何其多。
我生待明日，萬事成蹉跎。
世人若被明日累，春去秋來老將至。
朝看水東流，暮看日西墜。
百年明日能幾何？請君聽我明日歌。
繼續給女兒出題，問道：“媽媽給你解釋《明日歌》，聽懂了嗎？你把翻譯成英文好不好？”女兒狡黠地看著我答道：“不懂，媽媽。”再出招，媽媽：“給你英文版，你看懂後寫一篇三百字的文章給我，行也行，不行也行。”
Song of Tomorrow
Tomorrow comes and again tomorrow.
Tomorrow are like rivers that endlessly flow.
If all my things are put off till tomorrow,
My time wasted to no purpose will brow woe.
All mortals are tired of the sake of tomorrow,
The passage of time will make them old before they know.
In the morning they see water eastward running,
At dusk they see the sun in the west low hanging.
How many tomorrows are in your lifetime, do you know?
Please listen to me sing the Song of Tomorrow.
Tomorrow are like rivers that endlessly flow.
If all my things are put off till tomorrow,
My time wasted to no purpose will brow woe.
All mortals are tired of the sake of tomorrow,
The passage of time will make them old before they know.
In the morning they see water eastward running,
At dusk they see the sun in the west low hanging.
How many tomorrows are in your lifetime, do you know?
Please listen to me sing the Song of Tomorrow.
我又問她：“懂了沒？”女兒看逃不脫了，點點頭：“懂了。”媽媽再告訴你些英文名句3有同樣的意思 ：“Yesterday is already gone, tomorrow can not see, but only today is here, one today is worth two tomorrows. 意思是今天的事今天做，不要拖到明天，一天拖一天，你什麽事都完成不了。三百字文，1h以後給我。”女兒答道：“我交文章，下星期二你得帶我去看《Annabelle》,我網上寫的文章得找點感覺。”我答道：“跟你爸一樣，愛看鬼片，好吧！加五十字。”女兒又問道：“媽媽，你為什麽不看我網上的文章，隻檢查你給我出的題？”答：“你不是嫌我哆嗦嗎？網上你的文章是寫給你的同齡人看的，需要的是想象能力，我訓練你的是寫作能力。各有各的要求，我要是看了，估計三天三夜，你媽都可以說得停不下來，而且難聽的肯定大於好聽的。你想嗎？"
一小時後女兒寫完了，我看了一遍，打回去，讓她重寫。三遍修改以後，略能見人，雖然還是跑題了，但文章尚能見人。曾答應過她，若文章超過五百字，放入我的博客。與女兒的鬥智鬥勇，也是為人父母的一個成長過程。
女兒文章如下：
When it is all play and no work, our life is basically a mess because we have no goals and
no time limit. We have no plan for anything because there is not a balance between our goals and desires. Our desires may be stressful eating or watching too much T.V. Laziness is probably the one that most affects our life; it is the result of being unwilling to work or use energy. Laziness affects us in a different way, but we only get one result, which is the inability to accomplish any goal in our life. Did you fulfill any of your New Year’s resolutions or finish any of your projects on time?
In summary,I believed that life needs to be constantly in balance. All play and no work or all work and no play are just like a sword’s two sides, the sharp edges will hurt the balance of our life. Putting the unnecessary thing behind the necessary thing will make our life more efficient. It will make our goals more clear and make an achievement that brings more pleasure in our life. Making the balance is the most important thing in our life.
女兒文章如下：
THE BALANCE OF OUR LIFE
Everybody has his/ her bad habits, such as lazy and selfish, but those imperfections are
what make us human beings. What is thereal problem going through our life? It is an imbalance that includes laziness in our life. In my opinion, getting the balance is the most important thing in our lives. We cannot have all play and no work or all work and no play. All work and no play make Jack a dull boy.
what make us human beings. What is thereal problem going through our life? It is an imbalance that includes laziness in our life. In my opinion, getting the balance is the most important thing in our lives. We cannot have all play and no work or all work and no play. All work and no play make Jack a dull boy.
When it is all play and no work, our life is basically a mess because we have no goals and
no time limit. We have no plan for anything because there is not a balance between our goals and desires. Our desires may be stressful eating or watching too much T.V. Laziness is probably the one that most affects our life; it is the result of being unwilling to work or use energy. Laziness affects us in a different way, but we only get one result, which is the inability to accomplish any goal in our life. Did you fulfill any of your New Year’s resolutions or finish any of your projects on time?
Laziness is one voice in our head that tells us to do it later. “Later” turns out to be few hours. Instead, it is a day, a week, a month, and even a year. It seems that everything would be forgotten until the day of the deadline or until you completely give up it. It seems that the time we should be spending on necessary tasks is wasted on unnecessary things like social media, video games or reading some popular novels. I mean that how does it help us if we have a few hundred subscribers from You-tube? How does knowing the spells in Harry Potter do anything useful for us? In life, not everything can be done with just a flick of a wand. Nothing is easy in life. How is it truly important to be a top player in Call of Duty?
We spend hours by hours to play any videogame, but none of them has actually helped us in any way. While I am playing the piano, I think an hour had already finished, but in reality only a few minutes had pasted. When we played the videogames for hours we feel that it
just likes a few minutes. While we are writing essays, “Writer’s block” is always in our minds as an excuse, but there is no such thing as “writer’s block”. In truth, it is just the inability of not focusing on our necessary tasks. All play and no work is how we fail our goals in life.
We spend hours by hours to play any videogame, but none of them has actually helped us in any way. While I am playing the piano, I think an hour had already finished, but in reality only a few minutes had pasted. When we played the videogames for hours we feel that it
just likes a few minutes. While we are writing essays, “Writer’s block” is always in our minds as an excuse, but there is no such thing as “writer’s block”. In truth, it is just the inability of not focusing on our necessary tasks. All play and no work is how we fail our goals in life.
On the other hand, all work and no play will make life busy and boring, and we are unable to enjoy any pleasures from our life. We will lose our self-respect and self-esteem in such a busy life. No human being can survive for a very long time if they live everyday like a robot that cannot stop working. We simply cannot live with all the stress in our life without a rest. Everything can be fixed with a schedule or a plan to accommodate our desires. Having a break time for 25 minutes will keep us sane. A break time can make us close our eyes and drink some water. Having a break time for one or two hours to help us read or do anything that we desire will satisfy our desires Having a little bit of junk food in our diet plan will allow our bodies to intake more healthy foods since it is not a 100% strict diet plan with just healthy foods. The organization and management of time can help us to improve and get a good balance in our life.
In summary,I believed that life needs to be constantly in balance. All play and no work or all work and no play are just like a sword’s two sides, the sharp edges will hurt the balance of our life. Putting the unnecessary thing behind the necessary thing will make our life more efficient. It will make our goals more clear and make an achievement that brings more pleasure in our life. Making the balance is the most important thing in our life.
我看她手機要經過她批準的，她看我手機是不用經過批準的，這是為什麽我說她製定了“不平等條約”。
她有幾次把學生號與家庭詳細信息編在了郵箱與FACEBOOK裏，引起了我的警醒，告訴她的一些網絡案件後，她進行了調整。你也可從文中看出，她不想我看到的東西已用她的指紋設置了密碼。
教育過程中，沒有什麽東西是絕對的。大部分時侯，我會忽略結果，而隻是問她為什麽做出這樣的選擇？她說出想法，我們共同做選擇。