回複:靜秋答網友 (鏈接) -曉風殘月- (188 bytes) (207 reads) 2006-03-21 Feel so happy for Jingqiu that her husband is good to her now, otherwise will strongly recommend divorce :P. Many thanks again to Amy, Huangyan and Jingqiu for sharing the story.
Thank you JQ JIE -Jennyma- ♀ (733 bytes) (110 reads) 2006-03-21 I am so moved by this real story and your answers. I was very sad the day before yesterday after I read the last chapter of the story but now I feel better.
My husband went to London for a business trip yesterday and it's a long trip. He did not call me until 8:00pm. I was so worried that I imagined he might have an accident and I would lose him (Silly me) . It is lucky that my husband and I still love each other after 16 years we met. But like all the couples, we quarrel for some trivial things as well – that really hurts sometimes. Your experience let me realize that true love is more important than any material things. We should treasure all the love we have.Thank you very much JQ Jie. All the best.
回複:靜秋答網友 (鏈接) -Megan- ♀ (1224 bytes) (166 reads) 2006-03-21 Jing Qiu: Thank you for the candid explanation. 1. What you experienced are typical for your generation and understandable. In 50s, 60s and part of 70s, love between two individuals was not encouraged,in some weird way "shameful". Teenagers at that time were very lack of education on love, relationship between man and woman. They did not expect to learn that from society, nor in most family. In late 70s and 80s, finally there were more books to read. Most people got their knowlege from literature. They explored and experienced with some pride and some guilty feeling of sin from our ancient culture. Learning to respect each other came later because it is more difficult to learn. To me, Lao San was a rarity because he understands love and respect at time most young people did not.
2. Your sense of preparing for the worst even in good days was also quite a common attitude. In those enviroment, individual was so powerless, any change in society can turn one's life upside down.
3. Lao San showed wisdom in understanding love, I think he would understand marriage needs cultivation and would be a good husband.
謝謝靜秋的真誠回答 -wxc417- ♀ (546 bytes) (75 reads) 2006-03-21 she's just a person full of good stories. she's so real. i remember 周寧 likes to play Majong. is 周寧 the stereotype of JQ's husband? somehow i just don't like him, who 'switch' to opposite side of himself after marriage. it's like after marriage, he turns to a brandnew page of his life (during which he treated the woman he loved in a 'brandnew' way). i have no intention to judge JQ's marriage. but if i were her, i'd choose divorce after tons of conversation don't work out. a woman deserves the affection and care.
對靜秋,喜歡她的真實和坦蕩。對她一路到今天的經曆,我隻想用一個不恰當的詞“眼低手高”來說,不管她怎麽強調自己生活的“平凡”或者“堅強來自糊塗”,她走過了諸多的風風雨雨,踏踏實實地,笑迎生活,不知不覺中返身回視她真是一個不簡單的,始終在進步,令人敬佩的女性。一個人的好,和價值不是通過她說的話來定義的,而是她的所作所為。(It's not what you say, but what you do defines you.)正像艾米在篇章最後的概括一樣,靜秋三十年的曆程,讓人由衷佩服。。。
This is real life! Thanks JQ -upset- ♀ (556 bytes) (57 reads) 2006-03-21 Although there is a best person for everybody in this wolrd (by statistics), after including lots of influences, I think only few of people can find their best. As a human being, love is only a part of life. We need to consider too many other things to survive first. Even if the one in our marriage is not the best, he(she) definitely is the better one. Things could be worse. Laosan became a dream because of his death. So appreciate what we have now. And give thanks to our other half for being with us through the real life. Take care JQ!