婚姻的藝術（五）愛的火辣（上）Love Sizzles （I)

要使你的泉源蒙福，要喜悅你幼年所娶的妻。 她如可愛的麀鹿；可喜的母鹿。願她的胸懷，使你時時知足；她的愛情，使你常常戀慕。(《聖經》箴言 5:18-19) Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love. Proverbs 5:18-19



昨天上婚姻課前，老師先道：“這堂課要談論一些生理用詞，如性高潮orgasm等，若你感覺不適合，可以先離開教室，但在坐的都是夫妻，應該沒有問題。”

婚姻第五課是“Love Sizzles" （愛的火辣），可以想象，火辣的愛情的主題當然是“性愛”。上帝創造了人，也同樣創造了性，他有很美妙的設計。

《聖經》裏對夫妻性交有三方麵的緣由：
（一）在神的麵前合一。Oneness before God；
（二）快樂。Pleasure；
（三）繁衍後代。Procreation.

性愛的宗旨是慶祝夫妻在神麵前的合一。The ultimate purpose of sex is a celebration of our oneness in the sight of God.
神創造性，並讓男女結合，《聖經》創世紀第一章31節寫道，“神看著一切所造的都甚好。God created sex and called the union between man and woman "very good" (Genesis 1:31)
神創造性，讓夫妻享受婚姻的愉快、美好和激情。God created sex to be enjoyable, pleasurable, and passionate in marriage.

《聖經》舊約裏有專門的章節，詩情畫意地描述了男女之間的浪漫愛戀，其中有男子寫給他心愛的女子的情書，也有女子給男子的情書。用了古時候所羅門王時期的景物，如美玉、黎巴嫩塔、圓杯、麥子、百合花、小鹿、象牙台、葡萄、石榴、風茄、佳美的果子等作為比喻，來表達對方身體各部位的性感和魅力。文字美妙多情，讓人浮想聯翩：

《聖經》雅歌 7:1-9 他寫給她的情書 Song of Solomon... his love letter to her
王女啊！你的腳在鞋中何其美好；你的大腿圓潤好象美玉，是巧匠的手做成的；
你的肚臍如圓杯，不缺調和的酒；你的腰如一堆麥子，周圍有百合花；
你的兩乳好象一對小鹿，就是母鹿雙生的；
你的頸項如象牙台；你的眼目象希實本巴特拉並門旁的水池；你的鼻子仿佛朝大馬色的黎巴嫩塔；
你的頭在你身上好象迦密山；你頭上的發是紫黑色。王的心因這下垂的發綹係住了。
我所愛的，你何其美好！何其可悅！使人歡暢喜樂。
你的身量，好象棕樹；你的兩乳如同其上的果子，累累下垂。
我說我要上這棕樹，抓住枝子。願你的兩乳，好象葡萄累累下垂；你鼻子的氣味香如蘋果；
你的口如上好的酒。1

《聖經》雅歌 7:10-16 她寫給他的情書 Song of Solomon... her love letter to him
我屬我的良人，他也戀慕我。
我的良人，來吧！你我可以往田間去，你我可以在村莊住宿。
我們早晨起來往葡萄園去看看葡萄發芽開花沒有，石榴放蕊沒有；我在那裏要將我的愛情給你。
風茄放香，在我們的門內有各樣新陳佳美的果子；我的良人，這都是我為你存留的。2

閱讀《聖經》雅歌裏關於“性”的情書，夫妻們了解到：

上帝的旨意讓我們在婚姻裏享受性欲  -- 性欲本是神的禮物。  God intended for us to explore our sexuality within marriage -- it's a gift.

我們不應該將性欲放進盒子裏；應該要有創意地、主動地、追求性的自由。We're not to put sexuality in a box; there's a liberty for creativity, initiative and pursuit.
《聖經》雅歌激發已婚夫婦該如何做。The Song of Solomon is in the Bible to inspire married couples as to what could be.
性親密的宗旨是讓你的配偶有一個美妙、安全、愉快、深層次、滿意的經曆；也在經曆中享受兩人之間的關係。A goal of sexual intimacy is to see that your spouse has a wonderful, safe, lovely, profound, and fulfilling experience, and to enjoy your relationship with each other around that experience.
性交不可以隻為幫忙或者被看成是一種權利。Sex is not to be given only as a favor or seen as an entitlement.
夫妻必須學會溝通彼此對性交的期望。We must learn to communicate our expectations for sex with our spouse.
有時為了性滿足感，夫妻需要保留精力。Sometimes we have to save energy to reserve it for sexual fulfillment.

那麽夫妻間如何能夠有美妙而滿意的性交經曆，婚姻課的電影裏有很好的例子，請聽下回分解。。。
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注1：《聖經》雅歌 7:1-9 他寫給她的情書 Song of Solomon... his love letter to her
英文NIV版本
How beautiful your sandaled feet, O prince's daughter! Your graceful legs are like jewels, the work of a craftsman's hands.
Your navel is a rounded goblet that never lacks blended wine. Your waist is a mound of wheat encircled by lilies.
Your breasts are like two fawns, twins of a gazelle.
Your neck is like an ivory tower. Your eyes are the pools of Heshbon by the gate of Bath Rabbim. Your nose is like the tower of Lebanon looking toward Damascus.
Your head crowns you like Mount Carmel. Your hair is like royal tapestry; the king is held captive by its tresses.
How beautiful you are and how pleasing, O love, with your delights!
Your stature is like that of the palm, and your breasts like clusters of fruit.
I said, "I will climb the palm tree; I will take hold of its fruit." May your breasts be like the clusters of the vine, the fragrance of your breath like apples,
and your mouth like the best wine.

注2：《聖經》雅歌 7:10-16 她寫給他的情書 Song of Solomon... her love letter to him
英文NIV版本
I belong to my lover, and his desire is for me.
Come, my lover, let us go to the countryside, let us spend the night in the villages.
Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom- there I will give you my love.
The mandrakes send out their fragrance, and at our door is every delicacy, both new and old, that I have stored up for you, my lover.

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