我家小三才三歲，小小年紀就有口頭禪，不管自己還是別人做了什麽，他都要綴一句“Good Job！”
有一天，我和幼兒園的老師說起這事兒，老師笑著問我：“你平時怎麽表揚他？”我想想好像自己說的就是“Good Job！”這一句。
老師說：“這就對了，孩子都是跟外界學的，無論是行為還是語言。這句話一定是被你用了無數次以後，在他心裏被強化成了最有力量的表揚話。”老師建議我以後試試其它表揚鼓勵孩子的話，淡化這句話的作用。
敢情是因為我這當媽的語言單調造成了孩子的毛病。
下一次見到她，她拿出一張打印好的紙遞給我說：“這個或許對你有幫助。”我接過來一看，上麵打印的是：101種表揚孩子的話（101ways to praise a child）
看了之後大受啟發，把它打出來和朋友們分享。
| 1. Way-to-go!
2. You're special.
3. You're on your way.
4. How smart!
5. Good Job!
6. Good for you!
7. You're a winner.
8. Terrific!
9. Great discovery.
10. I trust you.
11. You're exciting.
12. You're so sweet.
13. You make my life complete.
14. You're so heavenly.
15. Bravo!
16. Super!
17. Outstanding!
18. Great!
19. Wow!
20. That's amazing!
21. How nice.
22. That's incredible!
23. You're adorable.
24. Dynamite!
25. Beautiful work.
26. Remarkable job.
27. Nothing can stop you now.
28. You're beautiful.
29. You're one-of-a-kind.
30. You're so creative.
31. Great work!
32. Fantastic job!
33. Phenomenal!
34. You are so important.
35. You figured it out.
36. Hip! Hip! Hooray!
37. You did that very well.
38. Good learning!
39. You're a good listener.
40. You're are so much fun.
41. You're caring.
42. You tried very hard.
43. Wonderful sharing.
44. You're a treasure.
45. Awesome!
46. You're wonderful.
47. You're A-OK!
48. You made my day.
49. Thank you 50. You have a great sense of humor. | 51. Good!
52. You make me happy.
53. You're incredible.
54. You're on target.
55. Looking good.
56. I knew you could do it.
57. I'm proud of you.
58. Well done!
59. Marvelous!
60. Exceptional performance.
61. You're a real trooper.
62. You are so responsible.
63. What a great imagination.
64. You belong.
65. That's right.
66. Now you've got it!
67. You're catching on.
68. You're on top of it.
69. Nice work!
70. Excellent!
71. That's remarkable.
72. Beautiful!
73. You're precious.
74. Magnificent!
75. Super work!
76. You're a good friend.
77. You mean a lot to me.
78. That's the best.
79. Give them a big hug.
80. You've discovered the secret.
81. You're spectacular.
82. You're a darling.
83. I like you.
84. You're fantastic.
85. Neat!
86. That's good manners.
87. Bingo!
88. You're growing up.
89. You're getting better.
90. You brighten my day.
91. That's perfect.
92. You're such a joy.
93. You're so kissable.
94. You have a wonderful smile.
95. You make me feel good.
96. You work hard.
97. Good thinking!
98. Good planning!
99. You're a good helper.
100. I like the way you did that. |
101. Say, "I Love You" – often
我覺得這裏麵的有些話不僅僅用來表揚孩子，分場合地點也可以用在配偶、朋友、同事、上下級等所有和人打交道的時候，運用的恰當，一定比普普通通的“挺好”“不錯”這樣的話效果好，事半功倍。
