瘋老大sleeping training Cry-it-out 方法的經曆

I personally know plenty of baby failing this type of cry-it-out method, especially if the baby is over 1 year old. Some babies will cry all night, literally!

Itried this method on mine when she was 7-month old. It worked after 4 nights. However, the old pattern came back in a month and later after any small disturbance in her life-teething, catching a cold, traveling, changing room, etc, you name it. You have to cry-it-out again and again.



When I way trying it another time when she was 11 months old, I was going to leave the room and happened to look into her eyes. I saw this extreme fear all over her face. I realized that she was gong through "separation anxiety", and Iquitted training her right away....I would rather not having enough sleep than permanently damaging her mental security. Until this day(18month), she needs me around so that she could fall in sleep by herself in her crib. But when she woke up in the night, she will ask"where is mommy?". When she seems me, she will lie down and try to go to sleep. But this repeats man ytime a night. So I pick her uop to sleep in my bed after midnight. Then she has no problem sleeping through. I think this period is important for her mental securtity. To me, having her felling secure and trusting people will affect her whole life, whereas she will naturally grow out of the sleeping problem and learn how to do it by herself in a couple of years. I would still be interested in learning a gental way to facilitate their sleep, but no CIO for me.



我知道"讓他哭"這招對很多寶寶不管用,特別是對於一歲以上寶寶.有些能哭整個晚上.



我女兒7個月的時候,我試過這個方法.她哭了4個晚上後好了.可是,之後很多時候,又不管用了.比如,她出牙的時候,她病了的時候,旅行的時候等等. 你必須反複的"由她哭". 在女兒11個月的時候,有一次,我離開她房間時,看到了她的眼神,那種極度恐懼的樣子,是我意識到,她在經曆"分離的痛苦" ,我立即停止了讓她自己睡覺的訓練. 我寧可自己少睡些,也不要她以後變得沒有安全感.



直到今天,女兒18個月了(此貼寫於05年12月), 她還是需要我在身邊才能入睡. 但半夜要醒好幾次, 隻要看到我,她就可以躺下,自己再入睡. 所以,我就索性把她抱到大床上睡,這樣她就能一覺睡到天亮. 我想這個階段是孩子培養安全感得重要階段. 安全感和信任將會影響她得整個人生. 我想隨著她長大,她遲早會學會自己睡得.



我還是希望有更好的幫助孩子入睡的方法,但不是"由她哭".