生命中的過客

 

前夫去世了

 

四十年前，一對無緣人就這麽陰差陽錯的結婚了，二十多年的磨合除了一對可愛的兒女見證了我們之間的平淡無味的歲月外，我們彼此都把愛和情給了我們的孩子們。孩子們長大啦，我們的日子也走到了盡頭。

離婚之後雖然我們仍然同住一個城市，同在一個大學工作，但我們早在離婚前就成了陌路人。我以為離婚宣判了我們之間的結局，我真的以為我和他之間再也沒有了瓜葛。直到今天當我聽到健康如牛的他突然去世了，我的心一下子就像被針紮了一樣的痛得我喘不過來氣。原來有緣無份的我們早讓二十多年的相伴，把彼此習以為常的生活注入了我們的生命裏。我為兒女們失去了父親而痛，我為年邁的前婆婆失去兒子而痛，我也為失去的辛苦了大半輩子的前夫而痛。眼淚就這麽為他流著，我是一個好強女人，我不記得離婚的時候這麽傷心過，我不記得從何時開始他的存在對我來說早成了親情的家人…

生命的長短真的是沒法用我們的時間尺寸去度量的。平時體弱多病的我一直是他關照的對象，他常常說我生病的時候是他最能派上用場的時候，因為他可以有機會照顧我…哎，其實在我剛剛來美國的時候，是他為我，也為我們曾有過的家撐起了那片天。他也曾害怕過，沮喪過，他也曾以老婆為自豪過，他說：“家裏的大事都是他做主，小事都是老婆管。”當他的學生問他什麽樣的大事他做主了，結果他說目前家裏還沒發生過什麽大事。為什麽人總是在失去的時候才看到他的好？我為他禱告了一輩子，我不知道他走前有沒有記得我告訴過他的話：“當我們不能掌控自己的命運的時候，別忘了抓住神的手，因為他能救你。”  真希望兒女們還能再見到他們的父親。天堂的世界裏有等待我們的親人。

我不知道他為什麽突然在自己的家裏就去世了？我也沒法想象他就這麽舍得丟下自己的家人去了，但我知道我們都沒法掌控自己的命運，走好我們每天的路，開心快樂的把生命的答卷在天父那裏畫上句號。

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女兒說：“I am so surprised to read all the comments about my dad's passing. He only started to sing in the past few years because he joined this community. When I would go back home to visit, he would sing for hours every night after dinner. I was so shocked by how loud he was! The last time I went back to visit him was in January 2022. I had to teach a class on Zoom in the evenings, and I made him promise not to sing until I was done, otherwise all my students would hear him from the basement!

Many people in his life only knew him for being an accomplished professor. But he also had many creative interests like drawing, photography, writing, and singing. And he was the best cook! Every time before I visited him, he would ask me what I wanted to eat and plan meals for the entire trip. He was a wonderful father.

I never knew that he was part of such a big singing community, and it makes me happy that he has so many friends and even fans here. I have learned a lot about him since he passed away, and hope that I can still be surprised by him in the future.

Please keep your loved ones close, call your parents or your children. My dad and I were close and we talked pretty regularly, but of course now I wish I could have talked to him more. He was healthy and full of energy, you can hear it in his singing. This was a shock to all of us.

Please celebrate his life and his singing, it would make him so happy.”

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兒子說：“

Our dad recently passed away unexpectedly. He was the biggest male figure in my life, so he will be missed immensely.

My dad was the one who initiated my love with basketball. He’d drive me to all the games and practices as a kid. There was always a basketball hoop in our driveway.

He was also the reason why I went into engineering. Not because I wanted to follow in his footsteps, but because prior to high school, he crossed out Art & Humanities on a form and wrote Engineering/Technology in its place and signed. STEM classes followed from there and set me on his way.

He was loved by family, friends, colleagues, and students. Frequently, he’d plan and host dinner parties for those looking for a gathering in the holidays. The man would cook for an entire day to prepare a feast for his students and their family.

Above all, dad was reliable, and I’m proud to carry on this trait and his legacy. Thank you for helping me have the life I have. You lived a life worth celebrating, and I’ll always remember what you’ve done for Ruth and me.”

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羅毅教授紀念獎學金正式成立
羅毅教授紀念獎學金（Professor Yi Luo’s Memorial Scholarship ）已於近日在西弗吉尼亞大學基金會正式設立，並在該校官網上線 （網址：https://secure.give.wvu.edu）。
為了紀念羅毅教授終其一生對采礦事業的熱愛與執著，為了永遠懷念羅毅教授在西弗吉尼亞大學采礦工程係工作的歲月，尤其為了表達他對人才培養方麵卓越貢獻的由衷敬意，由羅毅教授已畢業學生牽頭，發起了在西弗吉尼亞大學采礦工程係設立羅毅教授紀念獎學金的倡議。倡議一經發出，得到了羅毅教授生前好友、學生、同行和Morgantown華人的積極響應和大力支持，羅毅教授獎學金籌備委員會（以下簡稱籌委會）很快籌集到設置永久獎學金的最低門檻（25000美金）。截至2022年3月30日，籌委會獎學金專用賬戶已累計收到捐款$29,823, 另有約$6000公司匹配資金也即將到賬。在接下來的時間裏，籌委會將繼續宣傳，擴大影響，以期籌集到更多資金，資助激勵更多的人才積極投身采礦事業。
羅毅教授紀念獎學金將成為西弗吉尼亞大學的永久獎學金，籌委會籌集到的所有款項將交由西弗吉尼亞大學基金會統一管理，獎學金申報評選工作交由西弗吉尼亞大學采礦工程係統一組織。固定每年將基金收益的一部分（約占基金總額的5%）以獎學金的形式頒發給采礦係品學兼優的學生。預期2022年秋季學期進行首次獎學金評選及發放。
斯人已去，精神永存！從教幾十年，羅毅教授修身慎行、邸誌研思、嘔心瀝血、誨人不倦！羅毅教授紀念獎學金的設立，是為了表達學生們對他永遠的懷念，也是為了讓他愛生如愛子的情懷永遠延續下去，更是為了讓西弗吉尼亞大學采礦工程係曆屆學生了解到，有一位受人尊敬的中國教授曾經在此默默耕耘，為采礦事業付出了畢生心血！
衷心感謝大家的慷慨解囊和無私幫助，讓Morgantown 這個溫暖的小城永遠留下羅毅教授奮鬥的足跡。
再次感謝大家！祝福大家及家人春安夏泰，秋吉冬祥！

羅毅教授獎學金籌備委員會
2022年4月