She is a victim of

 

narcissistic rage. Girl A is the narcissist. Girl B and the rest are called "flying monkeys." Since they are still children, the roles may not fit exactly, but once she has the model in mind, the situation is easily explained and understood.

A narcissist preys on those who have a weak sense of the "self," because she (the narc) has an exaggerated sense of her self and sees others as an extension of herself, subject to manipulation.

Your daughter needs to build up and fortify the "self" so that her subjective-self can cover more of her objective-self which, if exposed, will be encroached up on by those who do not respect her boundaries.

Ask for her opinions on things. Give her opportunities to make decisions on her own and follow through. Respect her as an individual. Teach her about boundaries, especially the mental ones.

 

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• 你寫得很好, 有道理，又學習到了幾個新的心理學上的詞匯，感謝！；我research了一把才看懂，lol. -HappyWed- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/11/2021 postreply 13:30:59

• 能不能講講有哪些mental boundaries是我們家長可以跟孩子探討的？再次感謝！ -HappyWed- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/11/2021 postreply 13:37:05

• The concept of “gaslighting” is an interesting example of -One1618- ♂ (280 bytes) () 11/11/2021 postreply 14:20:57