社交語言技巧

語言技巧，友情為重

 

1. Listen &  be understanding

 

Don't just say "I disagree", show them that you understand them before you explain your opinion.

Say ;

Yes, but...

I see what you mean, but...

I agree up to a point, but

 

傾聽並理解

 

 不要隻是說“我不同意”，告訴他們你解釋他們。

 可這樣說：

 對，但是...

 明白。但......

 我同意一點，但：

 

 

2. Avoid negative words - instead use positive words in a negative form

 

Don't say: I think that's a bad idea.

Say: I don't think that's such a good idea.

 

避免否定詞- 而是使用否定形式的正麵詞

 

 不要說：我認為這是一個壞主意。

 說：我認為這不是一個好主意。

 

3. Say the magic word: Sorry

This word can be used in many ways: to interrupt, to apologise, to show you don't understand, to disagree. It diffuses tension and it allows you to start a statement more comfortably. 

 

Sorry, but I don't really agree

 

【對不起】這個詞可以用在很多方麵：中斷，道歉，表明你不理解，不同意。讓您可以更舒適地開始陳述。

 

 對不起，但我真的不同意

 

4. Use little words to soften your statements

Break down negative sentences with some softeners.  

 

Don't say: I didn't catch that

Say: Sorry, I didn't quite catch that

 

用一些小詞來軟化你的陳述

 用一些柔軟字來淡化否定句。

 

 不要說：我不懂你說那個

 說：對不起，我沒聽清楚

 

 

5. Avoid statements with the word 'you'

This is aggressive and too direct. But  put the focus on 'I' or 'we'.

Don't say: You don't understand me.

Say: Perhaps I'm not making myself clear.

 

避免使用“你”這個字

 

 這太直接了。盡量避免說'你'，而是把注意力放在'我'或'我們'上。

 

 不要說：你不理解我。

而是說：也許我沒有說清楚。