翻譯(Google):
幾年前，我遇到一個中國女孩。她非常可愛，聰明，而且比我所經曆過的更有親和力。我們結婚了，有了一個孩子，一切看起來都很好。
她總是有點控製欲和權利，但這對我來說是好事。當她要求一些極端的東西時，我偶爾會提出來，但這從未成為一個問題。然後，情況開始變得更糟。一年之內，她主宰了我生活的方方麵麵，她告訴我如何穿衣，吃什麽，我有哪些朋友，甚至讓我與家人斷絕關係，包括我即將去世的父親。
我不能提出來，她隻是把我擋在門外，要麽變得不愛說話，要麽變得過於情緒化。她甚至打我，好幾次。我要求進行關係治療，她同意了。接下來的六個月是徒勞的練習；一切都是我的錯，我必須做得更好，諸如此類。我問我應該做得更好，而她隻是重複以前發生過的事情，準確度高得嚇人。我以為是我記錯了。
然後，突然間，她開走了我的車，然後離開了。她現在起訴要求獲得我們孩子的監護權，因為我 "危險地失去理智 "和 "暴力"。另一方麵，我正在接受治療，並得到了創傷後應激障礙和自戀受害者綜合症的診斷。
我想 "哇，我一定有精致的壞運氣"。
然後我的治療師讓我參加了一個由22名自戀者的男性受害者組成的小組。結果發現有19人有一個中國妻子或女朋友。我聯係了我認識的其他有中國妻子的男人（我通過我妻子認識了不少人）。我與六個人取得了聯係，其中三個人現在正處於自己的監護權爭奪戰中。第七個人在幾個月前自殺了，當時他失去了他的房子、孩子和工作。
我想說的是；我所知道的唯一最好的浪漫關係是中國女人和非中國男人之間的關係，亞軍也是如此。但他們現在看起來像是例外，或者說中國女人好像隻存在於光譜的兩個極端。
有誰能在這方麵提供一些見解？
原文:
Couple years ago, I met a Chinese girl. Very cute, smart, and more affectionate than I've ever experienced. We married, got a kid, and everything seemed fine.
She was always a bit controlling and entitled, but that was fine with me. I brought it up once in a while, when she demanded something extreme, and it never became an issue. And then it started to get worse. Within a year, she dominated every aspect of my life, she told me how to dress, what to eat, which friends I had, and even made me cut out family members, including my dying father.
I couldn't bring it up; she'd just block me, become either non-emotional or over-the-top emotional. She even hit me, several times. I asked for relationship therapy, and she agreed. The next six months were an exercise in futility; everything was my fault, I had to do better, and so forth. I asked what I should do better, and she'd just repeat things that happened before with frightening inaccuracy. I thought it was me who was misremembering.
Then, suddenly, she took my car, and left. She's now suing for custody of our child, since I am "dangerously unhinged" and "violent". I, on the other hand, am in therapy, and got the diagnosis PTSD and narcissistic victim syndrome.
I thought "Wow, I must have exquisite bad luck".
And then my therapist got me in a group of 22 male victims of narcissists. Turns out that 19 had a Chinese wife or girlfriend. I reached out to the other men I know with a Chinese wife (I met quite a few through my wife). I made contact with six, and three are now in custody battles of their own. Number seven killed himself a few months back, when he lost his house, child, and job.
Just to be clear; the single best romantic relationship I know is between a Chinese woman and a non-Chinese man, as is the runner up. But they now appear like the exception, or it's like Chinese women only exist on the extremes of the spectrum.
Can anyone offer any insight in this?
