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同理心的力量：非暴力溝通的奧秘 - 第一章
感想一： 希望自己成為長頸鹿，不會為攻擊、批評和指責所傷，而是從他人的語言背後讀懂他人真正的想法。
所謂聽話聽音，要聽懂背後的含義。這一點一直是我的弱項，我一般是直來直去，因為自己不隱瞞自己的真正想法，所以認為大家都這樣。後來我發現對別人說的話，不要立即做出反應，要想一下再說。但是這樣就會養成思維反芻的毛病。
這本書後麵可能還要講方法，希望能學到更多方法。
感想二：要處理好與自己的關係，學會愛自己。
先照顧好自己的身體健康和精神健康，不要一切以孩子為重。落實到具體實施就是不要餓著肚子給孩子做飯，感覺累了就去休息，不要硬撐。自己都垮了還怎麽能幫助孩子，哪裏還有力量。
感想三： 凡是想直接改變別人的行為的，基本都不會成功，還會造成內傷。
當我們不喜歡別人的行為時，我們要努力去看到他行為背後的美好的人性，隻有這樣，我們才能試圖理解對方，由指責轉換成傾聽和理解對方的需要。然後我們再跟他一起尋找滿足他需要的其他方法。
感想四： 在實踐非暴力溝通的時候，要從根部做起，先同理自己，做到自我傾聽，自我鏈接和自己關愛。穿越情緒，看到自己內心的需要。
不要把注意力放在指責他人和自己上，而是采取行動滿足自己的需要。
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
“We are not here to fix, change or belittle another person. We are here to support, forgive and heal one another.”
“It takes courage…to endure the sharp pains of self discovery rather than choose to take the dull pain of unconsciousness that would last the rest of our lives.”
- A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson
