接納(九)

“媽媽，這是給你的禮物”。去年的母親節的禮拜後，兒子拿著母親節的禮物--一個透明的相框，密密麻麻的寫滿了歪歪斜斜的字。還沒有讀完，我的眼淚就刷刷的流。在一旁的女兒看見了，傷心地哭了起來：媽媽你喜歡哥哥的禮物多一些。她也有禮物給我，我沒有哭，是笑嘻嘻的親她。

Mom,
 

I knew that we haven’t had the best relationship. We argue, I bike off to blow
off steam, and everyone gets upset. You yell at me for things that aren’t alone
my fault, and I yell at you that aren’t always your fault. …. Our family has
had its moments: trip to California and China, parties with church groups, and
going out for dinner. Through all the goods and bads, you were there. I’ve seen
other moms’; quite frankly, I would rather have no other, even when my mouth
says different. I guess what I want to say is: YOU’RE MY MOM, and

I love you!

               XXX

女兒那裏能體會，我這個媽媽，看著從叛逆裏慢慢回家來的兒子，我發自內心的欣喜。我喜極而泣。這個禮物告訴我, 那個我需要把家裏的刀東藏西放的時代過去了。我一直想告訴兒子的小牧師，謝謝他用母親節的禮物給了我一個印證。
 

要摧毀一個人很容易，隻要不斷地打擊他可以了。要建立一個人，並不容易，光有愛心不夠，還需要技巧，需要時間，需要精力，更是需要全盤的接納。
 

這是一個無條件的接納帶來的走出黑暗走向光明的改變。每個人的進步還在繼續中。

[非常歲月]

耶穌是愛的源頭

[驢兒]

你真是有愛的媽媽。願神祝福你和家人。