Feeling guilty

As parents we feel guilty now and then about what we should/could have done otherwise. I felt guilty when my son injured himself at 5, leaving a notable scar on his nose. I felt guilty when he was found out nearsighted at 10 and would have to wear glasses because I had been wearing glasses since my teenage years. I felt guilty when he started to experience migraines at 12 because I had had migraines since long time ago. I felt guilty when he was tested PPD positive at 17 due to his BCG vaccination taken in China before he came to US and needed to take medications. I know I will feel guilty at times in the years to come for many things, either regrettably or simply because they will be beyond the control of my own power. My son has said to me, “Don’t worry, Mom. It’s life and I’ll deal with it.” It is not easy not to remember the regrettable things. Sometimes I allow my mind out of my body to think in someone else’s shoes. It does help a bit pushing the guilt off my chest.