冰雪狼
生活的起起落落，辛酸苦辣，讓我成長。
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大打出手之後，心情好象平靜了好多，管他外麵有多少，我要的是我的和平，我想安安穩穩的過好我的日子，把兩個可愛寶貝養大。他也想好了要這個家，他也要好好的撫養孩子，所以就給他一次機會。想想自己也30出頭了， 吵下去， 離婚了，也不是解決問題的辦法，隻會給自己加煩惱。
而且，我也鼓足勇氣說了要和他分開，但講了之後，就七上八下的，心裏很難受。我相信我一個人能養活我，自己和孩子們，自是想想，這麽小的孩子他們能麵對嗎？他們悔恨我嗎？我不想讓孩子有一個破碎的家。既然能挽回就努力吧。
他想讓我和他一起建一個溫暖的家，回味我們的愛。那就來吧，一起努力！
我相信愛可以改變一切。
而且，我也鼓足勇氣說了要和他分開，但講了之後，就七上八下的，心裏很難受。我相信我一個人能養活我，自己和孩子們，自是想想，這麽小的孩子他們能麵對嗎？他們悔恨我嗎？我不想讓孩子有一個破碎的家。既然能挽回就努力吧。
他想讓我和他一起建一個溫暖的家，回味我們的愛。那就來吧，一起努力！
我相信愛可以改變一切。
So, let’s dealing with the issues one by one:
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After carefully reading all of your articles, I feel very sorry for you, my deal 冰雪 girl; even I am on your site with my heart.
If I say something below, which makes you feel bad, please forgive me. I may say something totally wrong in your view, please keep this in your mind that I am providing you a different angle of the view to look at you and your life.
Generally speaking, it looks like that you have every thing in people’s eyes, a home, a husband, a lovely daughter, a lovely son, a career.
But, in fact, you don’t have anything, you have nothing.
Do you know why?
Because: you don’t have yourself as a person standing in this world. You already forgot all the things about yourself in past years and a quite long time. Who you are, who you used to be, please think about it, ask yourself and take a good look of yourself and the one you used to be a long time ago.
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Take care.
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Do feel pain for you.
All of those you described here are terribly, terribly painful stories/experiences. A poor, poor 冰雪 gril, how much painful you had suffered, are suffering. And how hard your life was, is now. 痛得鑽心!!
Before you recollect yourself,
> Crying, crying first please. Crying loudly, crying out everything you had suffered. Give yourself a break Put everything on side, let you mind being blank. I like those words “想哭就哭，想恨就恨. 發泄! 發泄! 發泄! 你傷心！！你生氣！！！對這個背叛你的男人，這時你做什麽都不為過。”
> Release yourself and at the same time ignoring him (your husband), treat him as air (not existed). Do whatever you want to do.
>>>Being mother, sure, giving love to your kids. Do what you want with them.
>>>Enjoying shopping, sure, spend money and treat yourself better.
>>>Enjoying sport, sure, go running, fitness, whatever
>>>Enjoying ...., do ...
OK, now, let’s start it (靜下心來問問自己):
> Think hard about who you were, are and will be, what you want in your life, make your priority list
> Think hard who he is, what type of person he is
> Find your won definitions of 人品 ,道德, 良心, 責任, 愛情, 婚姻, 家
>Then, figure out where you are and where he is now. 你自己想要的到底是什麽, 他是不是fit in your definitions about 人品, 責任, …
>Find the difference? Write down.
So, let’s dealing with the issues:
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