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每隔一陣,我都去學校跟給孩子們送外賣午餐。 兩個小家夥總是飛奔著撲上來跟老媽抱抱,弟弟還不害羞地公然跟媽媽親親。 我總在心底感歎,“不知道這樣的好時光還能持續多久?” 據說上了middle school,沒有哪個小孩還讓爸媽來學校陪著吃飯的。 鄰居Virginia一早告訴我,“我清清楚楚記得大兒子念五年級時,我去給他一個抱抱,居然被他推開,到現在還心痛哪!”
短短半個小時的午餐相聚,是溫馨的母子時光,也是老媽借機spy,oh no,認識他們的朋友、觀察他們和其他小朋友互動的好機會。 :-)
貝貝從kinder就在這家學校上學,我常來學校幫忙,也常給她安排play date、sleep-over 等等,再加上大家都是住在同一個社區的鄰居,不誇張的說,全年級的女生我都認識,真是看著她們長大的。 每次在飯廳門口等她,孩子們排隊走過來,好多好甜蜜的小女生都上來跟我抱抱。 看她們如雀鳥般嘰嘰喳喳、活潑歡快的模樣,有些已經快跟我一樣高了,每一個都那麽嬌俏可愛,那麽天真靈動。
貝貝這個年級男多女少,一個班才六個女生。 開學不久我就發現,六個女生裏五個都很要好,午餐總是坐在一起,說說笑笑,其樂融融;但是新來的一個女孩子Cecilia一個人坐的遠遠的,落單,在recess也是一個人在角落看著地上發呆,蠻孤單的。
回家後我問貝貝,“Cecilia都沒朋友嗎?” 貝貝說,“我們都有去跟她說話啊,可是她隻是瞪著我,也不回答。”“也許她隻是不知道怎麽回應,下次再試試。” 不久後的一天放學回到家,她頗為得意地告訴我,她給Cecilia寫了一個字條:我們做朋友好嗎? Recess要不要跟我們一起玩? 結果不善言語的Cecilia很快就回了她,滿紙的謝意情真意切,很讓人感動;Recess也果真加入,和大家一起玩得還蠻開心的。 我蠻佩服貝貝的耐心和誠意;慚愧,想起自己在她這個年紀哪有這等成熟和愛心? 貝貝還告訴我,同學Lily也常常主動地去找Cecilia玩。 Lily悄悄地說,其實是被她媽推的。 我聽了忍不住笑,Lily的媽媽是鄰居裏有名的熱心人,她差不多天天跑學校,準是看見了Cecilia的落單,才叫女兒特別友愛她。
這學期貝貝的老師指導全班寫blog,第一篇是介紹自己,第二篇是寫一個"How to"。 班上一大堆孩子寫"How to make a peanut butter jelly sandwich",哈哈哈。 但是貝貝寫的居然是" How to Make a New Friend":
Have you ever been the loneliest lone, lonely, loner? I haven't, but I know people who have. If you see someone hiding in a tiny nook, go make a new friend!
I’m going to go through the steps, one by one, on how to make a new friend. A friend could be very important to your life. I would be sad and might not want to go to school if I didn’t have friends. You need to go to school to get an education, but having friends is just as important as going to school.
To make a new friend, you’ll need to find a person that has not yet been your friend, a friendly smile glued to your face :), and a warm heart that’s ready to make a new friend.
To start, walk up to your about-to-be-friend and say “Hi! What’s your name?” They’ll answer a bit shyly so you’ll have to make sure that your warm heart is patient.
Next, try to find something you have in common to talk about. You’ll find something you love about them, such as kindness, jolliness, or generosity. Once you start talking, you’ll find you have a new friend in no time.
Those are all of the steps to how to make a new friend. I hope you enjoy your new friend!
I love her so much. She's the light of my life.
從中可以想像得到是一個多麽善解人意的好孩子。還是個陽光美少女!媽媽不用謙虛,一定功不可沒。