你會對朋友說，“你好美”嗎？

這篇原本是我用英文寫的。
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我常常誇自己的孩子，以前甚至誇老公，“你好美。”老公會很不好意思，嚴正告訴我不要再說了。兩個孩子卻大概因為媽媽常誇獎，自信心爆棚。

可是你會這麽直接地當麵讚美你的好朋友嗎？

不是那種表麵的讚一句，“你這個新發型不錯。”或者“哎呀，你這條裙子好漂亮。”

有時候，在跟好朋友談話的某個瞬間，或者在廚房一同忙碌，或者一起做手工的當中，我會突然心猿意馬，眼睛定定地望進她的雙目，腦子裏卻蹦出一個意念，“她真的越來越美呢！”可是我太害羞，不知道怎麽直接說出來。

我要好的幾個朋友都是這樣美麗的女人，她們每一位都有特殊的天賦才幹，樂於分享，充滿關愛。雖然她們很少化妝，可是她們個個在我眼裏都光彩奪目，不論是外表還是內在。

每一次的相聚，我的心都充滿喜悅，如沐春風般舒服。不過，我最最要好的朋友，絕對不停留在表麵的讚揚。看到我的錯處，她用溫柔的態度，不吝惜“用愛心說誠實話”，提醒我的不足，用真理勸勉。我珍惜她的真誠，信賴她的智慧，雖然當下有點不舒服，但這樣真實的指教才令我的生命成長。她自己有錯處的時候，在我還沒有感受到前，她就會主動流淚向我承認，道歉。真如箴言上寫的，“鐵磨鐵，磨出刃來；朋友相感也是如此。” 

“膏油與香料使人心喜悅，朋友誠實的勸教也是如此甘美。”

認識多年，外表當然不再像二十多歲時候那麽青春四射，但是這些朋友就像寶石，越發掘，發射的光芒越明亮。她們是我生命中的莫大祝福。

也許，下次我就直接說出來了。

I say this to my kids and even my husband all the time, but do you tell your friends "You're beautiful"?

Not the "I like your hair today." Or "What a cute dress."

Sometimes in the middle of a conversation or just doing some random activities together, I'd look into my friend's eyes and marvel at my own thoughts, "What a beautiful friend she is!", or "She's becoming more and more beautiful!" But I'm too embarrassed to say anything.

My best friends are truly amazing women, each gifted with unique talents, but they all are incredibly loving and giving. Even though they hardly ever put on any makeup, they all look gorgeous to me, both inside and out.

Every time I get together with them, my heart sings with joy. These women are like precious stones, the more you get to know them, the brighter they shine. My tremendous friends are such extreme blessings to me and my family.

Maybe next time I'll just say it.