書報摘要 (女兒培養篇）

"The strongest and most consistent predictor of children's mental health, adjustment, happiness, and well being is the level of involvement of their parents in their life. Children with involved parents do better in school, feel better about themselves, are less likely to develop emotional problems, and are less likely to take risks or get into trouble. There is nothing more important to your child's psychological development than your deep and sustained involvement. This is true whether your child is an infant, a teenager or at any point in between." -by Psychologist, Laurence Steinburg

2/22/2012
轉自文學城有關 密歇根州立大學華裔女學者秦寶蓮 的研究結果。

秦寶蓮曾對兩組新移民家庭進行了長達5年的深入訪談。兩組孩子學業都非常優秀，但一組孩子心理很健康，而另外一組很不健康。

經過分析，秦寶蓮得出結論：如果家長不盲從分數、注重與孩子交流的方式、且更多地去理解孩子的壓力和挑戰的話，那孩子就能學業成就和心理健康兼得。

秦寶蓮還談道，她曾與18個成績優秀的孩子進行多次交流，發現家長對孩子有高期望本身不是問題，問題是表達方式。秦寶蓮說，家長總嘮叨學習，一旦孩子成績不好，家長的反應激烈。此外，家長的攀比心理也會對孩子形成心理壓力。