就是學會心平氣和地跟別人吵架。
你在跟他吵架,但卻是心平氣和,不像是吵架。
目的是: disengage with him
但跟他吵架,又是 engage with him
你懂我的意思嗎?
因為: 當一個人,不用為自己的錯誤,支付成本時,他是不會改正自己的錯誤的。
所以,對付不講道理,自私自利的人,我會跟他吵一架,然後互相脫離。
本周剛剛跟這種人吵了一架,其他部門的經理,三番五次,對我提出不合理的要求,想侵蝕我的界線和權力。
我直接告訴他,stop doing this nonsense to me.
I don't have the time to deal with your nonsense.
What you did to me makes me feel uncomfortable.
You have no right to do this to me.
然後,直接ignore 這種人,把他們當成空氣。
如果不得不跟這種人打交道,就通過第三方。
Bottom line: life is too short. Don't spend your valuable time and energy on other people nonsense.
You can not change people.
Movie: The Holdovers 裏有一句經典台詞:Life is like a henhouse ladder. It is short and shitty.