職場新人的人事困惑，請幫助！

大家好，我是一個剛剛畢業and工作的人，我有困難，想聽大家的意見。I started my job in this May in a brand new city. This is also my very first job. 單位裏隻有一個中國人（同部門，但不同老板)。我剛上班時，領導 sent out the personnel announcement，她有給我會email，我挺開心認識一個中國人的。Her office and mine are far from each other. Normally we only meet each other in our company meeting and go home (我和她都做地鐵，在同一站上下)。Her office hours are weird, so it is rare for us to meet on the train since I work from 8 to 4:30 or 9 to 5.

第一次地鐵碰見，她就問了我好多問題，私人的, (such as how old I am, what my husband is doing, how I feel the new job, which undergraduate university I graduated), 我也就回答了。互相留了電話。

10 days after this first meet, 我第一次打電話問她 where to find a 理發店。她很熱心地留言回答。我因為是留言，沒有直接謝她。

第二次我打電話問她工資單扣稅的事，電話裏謝她。這次聊的長一些，她告訴我很多“小道消息”和她老板對她不好的事，我也聽了，可是實話說，我覺得有些她的評價讓我覺得很負麵，畢竟我是新人，而且我不太會人際關係，聽了這些，讓我聽有壓力, I feel the HR relationship is so complicated, but I also encouraged myself that I should be positive.

第三次我打電話給她是因為我老板評價我的英語需提高，我很upset，傷心，和她聊了一下，我在電話裏謝了她，心裏也非常感謝她。這之後，I had a chance 參觀她的辦公室，和她又聊到英語，她對我的評價是“your English is bad, and sometimes you are aggressive”。說心裏話，我聽了她的評價，挺傷心的, very upset。其實她有很大的優越感 (因為她是國內英語係畢業的，我的英語是不可能和她比的.) All I know is to work hard to polish my English.

之後很忙，almost 2 months or so we didn\'t contact or meet each other.

In August 我生病了，她聽說給我打了電話，我發燒，但也和她聊天，也謝了她的電話。在我病期間，我發了電子郵件，問她 where to find 醫生的信息，她的回信我沒及時回複 （因為生病沒有勤查email. I only sent 2 emails during the whole sick week, one of which was to tell my secondary boss I was sick, and the other was asking her for a favor of information of her dentist). 之後上班，很忙. We are also far from each other, and her office hours are weird, so I was thinking of 見麵謝她 when possible.

大約是她的信後的７天 (middle of Aug.)，我們大部門開會，會後我就跑著追上她, and here was our conversation (I tried to recall)
She: 好了，病？
Me: 是的？(我聽她的語氣極不耐繁，冷冷的，心裏很吃驚。）咱們一起回家吧？
She: 我要會辦公室。
Me: 那下次吧。

Normally 她臉上很嚴肅（這有她的隱私，我就不談了），她自己都說她厲害，有脾氣，她的老板都知道她這點, when she speaks to whites, she looks happy or friendly at least。So I did not take her reaction seriously this time.

因為我們不在一個辦公室，見麵就是開會或是回家。這之後，我們就開過一次大會，她也不太理我。有2次做地鐵碰見，明明到站下車，我看見她，剛要打招呼，她就去了另一個門。我停車後等她，她也不理我，就走。我非常傷心，心想不理我，為什麽呢？I told myself if she didnt want to talk to me or so, I needed to learn not to talk to her.

終於事件在上周五下班發生了。

在等公車時，我們碰見，她向我打招呼，我很驚訝，也回應她,但很不自然，就沒說什麽話。趕地鐵時，我就在走路，她從後麵趕上。Here was conversation, which I recalled every day now.

She: 你眼睛不好嗎？
Me: 是的，我眼睛怕光 （這時我還傻傻的）
She: 你腦子也有問題吧？（惡狠狠）
Me: 。。。。 （我當時都傻了。從小到大我沒有和人吵架過! And it was a Friday rush hour in the train station.）
（她快步走， 我趕了上）
Me: 你為什麽這麽說話呀？
She: 我就覺得你腦子有問題，傻！
Me: 你能把話說清楚麽？你比我大十幾歲？
She:我覺得你可能是年齡小，我emailed my dentist to you，連句謝謝都沒有，我還以為我的郵件給了狗了？
Me: 對不起，我在生病就沒有及時會信，後來又沒有機會謝你。我心裏很感謝你。
She: 見麵連招呼都不打，你以為你是誰?（惡狠狠）
Me: (I was very upset, 我就重複了on the light train 她不理我的事）
She:那是因為我心情不好，或是沒看見你。總之咱們以後誰也別理誰！（惡狠狠）

我當時無比震驚，我一直說，”我很感謝你 (I really appreciated all the information you shared with me)，為什麽會這樣？明明是你不理的。有時開會碰見，你不開心，我就沒說話。”

我真是長這麽大，沒有和人吵架（幼兒園除外），而且我是第一次在公開場合被人羞辱，質問。

我問她，”你對外國人也這樣？”
她惡狠狠地說 “我對敵人就這樣。”
我對她說，”我不是你敵人，我很感激你的信息，但是就因為我沒說謝謝，你就這樣對我，因為我膽小怕事，所以你就欺負我？”（我說到這就很傷心，哭著下車)。

這件事已經快一個星期了，但是我還是放不下。我很傷心，很難受。

I feel hurt, misunderstood and upset. I talked with my friends about this person and issue. I realized that I should have acknowledged her email immediately in words for her information (the only reason I didn’t was because I was very sick at that time, and then busy). BUT what on earth did I do trigger her scold me in public and say so hurtful words?

I am new to work and job, and all I did is working hard and be peaceful with everyone. What on earth can I do then? I appreciated all of her shared information from 3 phone calls and 1 email. I am not good at expressing myself, so I should be blamed and insulted?

I feel she is crazy (may be I should not use this word). BUT for a mature adult, will anyone act her like her? Did anyone meet this kind of Chinese in your workplace?

Now I feel very stressful, confused and hurt. I don’t know how I can help myself. I am not strong. That’s why I decided to write it down and hopefully you would like to share your opinions with me.

Please help me out! How can I help myself out for such a person? Everyday, I go to work, even her office is far from me, I am so terrified that her crazy will hurt my reputation among my colleagues. Will she say bad behind me (because she was acting like that!) so to hurt me?

It will be highly appreciated if anyone could help me analyze this person and the issue. May I know what I should do, to protect myself and help me out? I feel very upset, worried, stressful and hurt.