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婆婆有兩個孩子,一個是我先生,一個是他在日本的姐姐。婆婆中風後,日本姐姐的先生不巧也患有癌症,所以她無法分身來美國照顧我婆婆。先生的另外兩個姐姐住在美國,但是,先生和日本姐姐是婆婆領養的孩子,所以,另外兩個姐姐血緣上是先生的姐姐,但是他們並沒有從小一起長大。所以先生和日本姐姐是最親近的。
昨天,日本的姐姐寫了一封郵件了,她真心的感謝我們對婆婆的照顧,她寫到,由於我們的細心照顧,媽媽恢複得很快,其實這和婆婆自己的努力分不開,姐姐在郵件的最後,對過去姐姐們對我的苛刻與不公平道歉,她說,隨著年齡的增長,她意識到以前對我的一些評價是不公正的。
姐姐的郵件的原件是這樣的
:As for mom, I'm glad that she can speak Cantonese, in which I'll use the next time I talk to her, probably next week. Good that the care taker works out well.
One thing I want to say is that you and my brother have done a fantastic job in taking care of mom. She couldn't have done better with anyone else! I'm sure mom realizes now how wonderful you are as her daughter-in-law. My apology for my sisters for their nastiness and unjustifiable mistreatment. Aging has made me see things quite clearly over the years....
You're very good-natured, I wish there would be more people like you two! I'm positive that my two sisters are trying to atone their errors in the past in their own ways for the last few years. To me, you're a full-fledged family member. As an old saying goes, "a better person cannot be harmed by a lesser person". In the long run, it's the lesser person that faces internal conflicts and public justice.
Big hugs,
sis
她說的就是在十多年前,老三被醫院診斷出有自閉症之後,婆婆和先生的姐姐們覺得自閉症與我有關,我聽先生說,因為我生了一個自閉症的兒子,她們開了一個家庭鬥爭大會,她們(婆婆,一個日本姐姐,兩個美國姐姐)說一切都怪我,說我不好才生了一個自閉的孩子。先生和她們大吵一番,婆婆說不要認我這個媳婦了,以後對我隻是客客氣氣的,不會再把我當兒媳看待,先生告訴我這些話以後,我受到很大的傷害,哭了很久,每當一想這些事情就生氣,生孩子不是我一個人的事情,為什麽偏偏要責怪我呢? 每每想想都心寒。
由於時間的流逝,婆婆已經逐漸轉彎,覺得我照顧一個自閉的兒子很辛苦,開始體諒我,我也開始原諒婆婆的無知,我知道,對於自閉症,社會上很多人存在恐懼和不理解,尤其是自己的孫子得了,婆婆覺得沒有麵子,自然責怪兒媳,但是,由於時間和知識的普及,婆婆已經對過去的作為有了悔意,近幾年對我一直不錯。我父親說過,親人不要記仇,要多看優點和長處。婆婆在我生老二的時候,來幫助我十多天,讓我安心地去醫院生老二,她為我們做飯,看老大。生老三的時候,她又來到我家,幫助我看老大和老二,又有十幾天。這些恩情,我永遠都記得。
我已經原諒她們了
我回信中說:
Let bygone be bygone, don’t worry about anything in the past. I don’t hold any grudge. I don’t even remember any of them.
祝家mm母親節快樂,新周快樂!:))
祝家家母親節快樂!
家mm真是辛苦了,望多多保重,祝福家mm和你的家人:)))
祝福家MM和你的家人!