延遲 delay

 

三十多年前剛剛來到美國的時候，我們還不會開車。比我們年長的好朋友老王夫婦常常帶我們去買菜和郊遊。那個時候GPS還沒有問世，我們每次出門都先查地圖，把要去的地方標好，一起出門旅遊的時候，常常是老王開車，老公幫忙看路。

“下一個出口我們就下去了” 老王說：

“我怎麽又過了出口？”

當時的我們的確沒有理解為什麽他自己說著該出口了，卻沒有出呢？

一晃十幾年過去了，我們自己也早就開車了，同樣的錯誤他自己也開始犯的時候，不知道他明白是為什麽不？反正，我現在終於明白了：“延遲”。當我看到路上有小鬆鼠跳動的時候，心想老公可別壓死它，老公卻在兩秒之後突然急刹車，頭一次我以為是他沒注意，發現的晚了，以後每次遇到障礙物，他都以同樣的反應急刹車的時候，我明白了這種延遲的狀態與年齡有著密切的關係。這讓我暗自提醒自己，開車需要高度集中，車與車之間的距離一定要留夠。因為，我們的反應隨著年齡越來越大而越來越遲緩。一個能承認自己的年齡的人，會承認遲緩的問題而小心駕駛。不是我們沒看到出口和前方的障礙物，而是，眼睛看到的時候，反應給大腦，大腦發出信號給手腳的時間已經不再是一瞬間了，而是一個過程了，這個過程隨著我們的年齡越來越長的時候，我們一定要掌控自己的適應度，不能不服老了。我已經人到中年，要過好自己的後半生。讓老人的生活健康快樂的老去。安全第一。

When we first came to the United States 30 years ago, we don’t know how to drive yet.  Older couples often take us to buy food and visit places. At that time, GPS has not yet come out. Every time we go out, we first check the map and mark the place to go. When we go out for a trip, it is often the older friend Lao Wang always driving, and husband helps to watch the road.

 

"The next exit we will go down." Lao Wang said:

“How did I pass the exit again?”

At the time, we did not understand why he said the exist, but did not go?

After more than ten years, we have already drove ourselves. The same mistakes accrued , when he started to commit himself, I am not sure if he understood why or not? but, I finally understand: "Delay." When I saw a little squirrel beating on the road, I thought in my mind, my husband better not crush it and kill it. My husband suddenly braked after two seconds. For the first time, I thought he didn’t pay attention this time. But, when same thing happened every time like that. Obstacles comes to his same reaction, I realized that the state of this delay is related to our age. This makes me remind myself that driving needs to be highly concentrated, and the distance between the car and the car must be enough distance. Because our response is getting slower as we get older. A person who can admit his age will admit to the slow problem and drive carefully. It’s not that we don’t see the obstacles in front of the exit and the front. Instead, when the eyes see it, the reaction to the brain, the time when the brain sends a signal to the hands and feet is no longer a moment, but a process. When we are getting older, we must control our own fitness. I have already reached middle of age and we are not getting any younger. How to live out senior life be healthy and happy? Safety is 1^st issue.