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Kathy，我將永遠記住去年你和Frank來我家，你高興地麵對我鏡頭的這個最後畫麵！
患漸凍症的小姑Kathy走了。。。
現在是2014年9月4日淩晨3：02，我一點睡意也沒有！
昨晚也是這個時辰，由於行李被耽擱，我剛剛從機場回到家中，迷迷糊糊於時差裏我試圖把在途中那23小時的勞頓補回來，結果還是一早就醒了。也早醒的bill告訴我他姐姐kathy狀況非常不好，醫院的死前安撫醫護人員已經到kathy家了，他們說kathy最多隻有4至8周的生命了。
我說，那我回來了，你趕緊飛去西雅圖看你姐姐最後一眼吧！你們二個從小就是處得最好，最合拍的一對姐弟，我對她也是最有感情的，你定周五的飛機，周日回來，不會影響工作的。
bill說他弟弟也打電話給他，說想飛去西雅圖。bill說，Frank剛剛發了一個email， 說現在kathy對外界已經沒有反應了，她的呼吸越來越弱，心髒卻越跳越快。bill覺得他寧願記住kathy去年來我家時，那種快樂滿足的音容笑貌，真不願意去看她躺在那裏，毫無知覺，身上到處插著管子的樣子，所以他一直猶豫著要不要飛去。
Kathy， 我親愛的Kathy，我7月回國前還專門給她寄去一包茶葉，她收到後及時地給我email表示感謝，並很高興地告訴我，她目前正在接受一個中國醫生的治療，她說她非常喜歡這個李醫生，希望她的針灸能對她有所幫助。這才一個多月的時間啊，她怎麽就不行了？
我告訴bill，即使現在kathy的身體對外界沒有反應，但她的思想或靈魂一定能知道誰來看她了，何況漸凍人的特征就是＂凍＂到死，腦子都是清醒的啊。你不去，我會一輩子叨你的。
那時是早上7點多，我說要不給Frank打個電話？bill說現在西岸時間才是淩晨4點，等等再打吧。
Bill開始上網定機票。突然，樓下傳來一串急促腳步聲，小狗Rico叫了起來。3個孩子都已離家上學去了，誰在樓下？
Bill從床上躍起，奔下樓去。他轉回說沒人啊。我不以為然，促他趕緊訂票去西雅圖。
彼時，bill的手機響起，他瞄一眼，回頭略驚訝地對我說：＂是Frank＂。
Frank告訴Bill：＂你姐姐於昨晚10：55分走了。。。＂
我一聽，淚水奪眶而出！9月2號西岸西雅圖晚上的10：55分，就是東岸華府地區9月3號淩晨2點的時間啊，那正正好是我剛剛下飛機的時候，正正好是我腳落地的時候！
＂剛才那陣腳步聲說不定就是我姐姐的？＂，bill愣愣地自言自語。
Frank說，9月1號，Kathy離世的前一天，她用隻有Frank能懂的方式告訴Frank她想去超市！
Frank把她帶到超市，Kathy已發不出任何聲音，連眼珠子都不能動了，Frank隻能根據Kathy平時喜歡的，拿一些給她看看後放到推車裏。。。
想想啊，臨死前一天，Kathy最想去的地方居然是超市！一個她生平去得最多，給親人與愛人選購食料做愛心佳肴的地方！
熱愛烹調，熱愛生活的kathy臨死前要求去超市！！---最樸素的眷戀生活方式，也是kathy式的！
Frank在電話上先是忍住哭聲，語調盡量平穩地告訴我們Kathy最後的那幾天。到後麵，他越說聲音越顫，最後竟泣不成聲，我在電話這頭也出聲大哭！
Frank說他與kathy最後一次的＂交流＂是9月1號深夜。當每隔2小時準時起來給kathy翻身的Frank輕聲問幾乎沒有反應的kathy，是否需要服止痛藥的時候，求生欲望極其強烈，平時一直樂觀地頑強與死神搏鬥的kathy，出乎Frank意料之外地搖了一下頭！
Frank說，那一刻，他知道自己心愛的人已不在fight（對抗），她不得不放棄了對這個世界，對所愛之人的眷戀，準備離開這個她再也指揮不了的軀殼。。。
也許，那是一種解脫，一種無需一直搏鬥的安息？
可是，她才57歲啊！想想她一生的不幸，好不容易遇到Frank，竟。。。
公公曾經非常悲哀地對bill說，你姐姐的一生真是不幸，好日子沒過幾天。。。
kathy的前夫，她二個孩子的父親，及時地在他的麵書裏寫下他對kathy的緬懷，說在與kathy的婚姻裏，有許許多多讓他無法忘記的幸福和快樂時光。。。
Frank說等辦完喪事，他還會專門飛去bill父母家，把kathy的一切與二老做一個最後的交代，比如把這幾年kathy的生活相片做一個積集給他們看。。。
bill問Frank：等一切都安頓後，你有何打算？
實誠的Frank回答：＂I will get some sleep!" （ 我會補補覺）。
整整3年了，自此kathy腰以下失去知覺後，Frank從沒有睡過一個全覺。他每個晚上都得起來好幾趟給kathy翻身或響應kathy的任何call，而他白天還得照常上班啊！
睡吧，Frank，你是得好好睡一覺了，你多年的＂無眠＂讓我傷痛kathy逝去的同時，越加傾佩和感動你對kathy那片無私深情的愛，哪怕kathy並不是你的妻子！
你的偉大，難以言表！
睡吧，kathy，我的小姑，離開那個＂凍＂著你的軀體，好好安息吧！
你的靈魂會自由自在地行走在沒有任何病痛的天堂裏，就像今早行走在樓下的那陣腳步聲一樣：急促而輕盈，來去自如。。。
那一定是你！Kathy。。。
俏皮的Kathy在餐間突然側身給正在幫自己切菜的Frank一個吻，Frank用一個搞怪表情來掩飾自己的靦腆---溫馨一刻！
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Cheryl Piche'：
Frank ，you are a true angel on earth for ALL you did for Kathy and her family, taking her on so many fun trips, adding such sunshine and spice to her life, making it possible for her to see her family and hometown, caring for her impeccably and, most of all, loving her UNCONDITIONALLY
（Marjorie：I agree !!!!!!!
Carol Levesque ：I agree too, you are an amazing man, & those are few and far between! Love ya!
Ling ：Truelly indeed. Thank you,Frank! You let me see what the true love is and believe there is one in the world after all ! Thank you !!!!）
Angela Roley：
September 3 at 8:18pm ·
Words can't express my feelings these last few days. They say caregivers are a blessing, however I believe its the opposite....its the client that is the blessing as they are the one's that touch your life and teach you more. For the first time I can honestly say I am right where I need to be!
Thank you Kathryn for opening your heart and your home for me to share in your final journey on this Earth. It was a privilege and a pleasure to have been able to have you share your wonderful bright smiles with me daily even on those days I knew you didn't feel like smiling. I will forever feel honored that you allowed me to be with you to the end! Rest well my friend in the arms of the Lord. Until we meet again.....you will be missed and never forgotten
（Teresa Parsons ：Thank you for sharing. Being so far away I had not heard. She will be missed.
Chris Heilman ：Sorry Angela, sounds as if you had a wonderful relationship with this client. What a blessing you both received.
Elizabeth Marks ：Sorry to hear that I know how much she meant to you.
Kailyn Smith Davies ：Such beautiful words! You are a blessing Angela and what you do is truly a gift!）
Steve Smith：
I will always love you and miss you, Kathy, with a lifelong fondness that only the most special friends can plant in our hearts. Hugs, dear one, until I may see you again.
Angela Roley：
It's been only a few days and I've been thinking about you daily! I miss our crazy conversations and the laughs we shared together! I still find myself talking about you and the fun times we shared just watching tv together! Feels weird not being able to share what the girls and I are doing. I pray you've found peace and that you will continue to guide us that are still here to where we need to be next
Britney Lala Duran：
My emotions are crazy today. I feel so hurt and sad over the loss of such a beautiful soul...but at the same time, I know she is now at peace. Kathryn, I'm so very grateful for the short time I got to spend with you. You have deeply impacted my life and I will forever hold you in my heart. You are in a wonderful place now. It has been an honor to be at your side in your last days here with us. You are an inspiration with your strength and your courage. Although you suffered with ALS, you always had such a great attitude. Your smile is contagious. I can still see the way your eyes lit up the room as Frank came in. I know your on some kind of adventure up there, living your new life to the fullest. You will be greatly missed.