亦舒語錄(ZT)
(2009-12-29 08:19:46)
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1、真正有氣質的淑女,從不炫耀她所擁有的一切,她不告訴人她讀過什麽書,去過什麽地方,有多少件衣服,買過什麽珠寶,因為她沒有自卑感。——《圓舞》
2、如此情深,卻難以啟齒。原來你若真愛一個人,內心酸澀,反而會說不出話來,甜言蜜語,多數說給不相幹的人聽。——《她的二三事》
3、能夠說出的委屈,便不算委屈;能夠搶走的愛人,便不算愛人。——《開到荼蘼》
4、愛得不夠,才借口多多。——《紫薇願》
5、最佳的報複不是仇恨,而是打心底發出的冷淡,幹嘛花力氣去恨一個不相幹的人——《我的前半生》
6、無論多豪華的婚禮都不代表幸福婚姻,兩個人終生相處和睦與否和筵開幾席、多少首飾全無關聯。——《小紫荊》
7、無論做什麽,記得為自己而做,那就毫無怨言——《流金歲月》
8、如果愛一個人,千萬不要與他同居或是結婚。維持一個遼闊的距離,偶遇,可以愛慕的目光致敬,輕俏溫柔,不著邊際地問:"好嗎?"一年一次已經足夠。——《絕對是個夢》
9、結婚與戀愛毫無關係,人們老以為戀愛成熟後便自然而然的結婚,卻不知結婚隻是一種生活方式,人人可以結婚,簡單得很。愛情……完全是另外一回事。——《我的前半生》
10、兩個人的適配是一種內心感覺,而不是一種視覺,千萬不要因滿足視覺而忽視感覺。——《花常好月常圓人長久》
11、能夠哭就好,哭是開始痊愈的象征。——《絕對是個夢》
12、我的歸宿就是健康與才幹,一個人終究可以信賴的,不過是他自己,能夠為他揚眉吐氣的也是他自己,我要什麽歸宿?我已找回我自己,我就是我的歸宿。——《胭脂》
13、要生活得漂亮,需要付出極大忍耐,一不抱怨,二不解釋,絕對是個人才。——《變形記》
14、凡事想別人感激,那是必然要失望的。——《故園》
15、我也想清楚了,婚姻根本就是那麽一回事,再戀愛得轟動,三五年之後,也就煙消雲散,下班後大家扭開電視一齊看長篇連續劇,人生是這樣的。——《獨身女人》
16、無論怎麽樣,一個人借故墮落總是不值得原諒的,越是沒有人愛,越要愛自己。——《星之碎片》
17、做一個女人要做得像一副畫,不要做一件衣裳,被男人試完了又試,卻沒人買,試殘了舊了,五折拋售還有困難。——《喜寶》
18、若要生活愉快非得把自己先踩成一塊地毯不可,否則總有人來替天行道,挫你的銳氣,與其待別人動手,不如自己先打嘴巴,總之將本身毀謗得一錢不值,別人的氣也就平了,也不妒忌了——《我的前半生》
< br> 19、人為感情煩惱永遠是不值得原諒的,感情是奢侈品,有些人一輩子也沒有戀愛過。戀愛與瓶花一樣,不能保持永久生命。——《城市故事》
20、生命像流水,這些不快的事總要過去,如果注定一輩子要這麽過,再不開心也沒有用。——《女人三十》
21、窮是一種心態,你若一輩子堅持自己是窮人,擁有大量金錢也救不了你。——《鄰室的音樂》
22、生命從來不是公平的,得到多少,便要靠那個多少做到最好,努力的生活下去。——《我們不是天使》
23、已去之事不可留,已逝之情不可戀,能留能戀,就沒有今天。——《花常好月常圓人長久》
24、“你大概誤會大學文憑是世界之匙,開啟順風順水之門,這並不正確。讀書目的是進修學問,拓闊胸襟。人生所有煩惱會不多不少永遠追隨,隻不過學識涵養可以使一個人更加理智冷靜地分析處理這些難題而已。” ——《花常好月常圓人長久》
25、幸運者做豬不幸者做人,我是個幸運的不幸者,起碼我睡的象豬。——《天若有情》
26、這是一個高度競爭的社會,沒有資格走的人最好不要走,否則要回頭這個位置已經被人占去,再也沒有空隙,閑時鬧意氣,一點用處也沒有。——《曾經深愛過》
27、行樂及時,上天給你什麽,就享受什麽。千萬不要去聽難堪的話,一定不去見難看的人。或者是做難做的事情,愛上不應愛的人。——《電光幻影》
28、生活中無論有什麽閃失,統統是自己的錯,與人無尤,從錯處學習改過,精益求精,直至不犯同一錯誤,從不把過失推諉到他人肩膀上去,免得失去學乖的機會。——《阿修羅》
29、現今還有誰會照顧誰一輩子,那是多沉重的一個包袱。所以非自立不可。——《不易居》
30、真正的才華如火焰般難以收藏,總會燎原。——《曾經深愛過》
31、朋友有什麽義務替他保守秘密?他不想人知,就不要說,你不讓他說,他才會心癢而死,所以做朋友的借出耳朵已經仁至義盡,其他的,管他呢!——《琴批》
32、人一定要受過傷才會沉默專注,無論是心靈或肉體上的創傷,對成長都有益處。——《花解語》
33、一個成熟的人往往發覺可以責怪的人越來越少,人人都有他的難處。——《我們不是天使》
34、失去的東西,其實從來未曾真正地屬於你,也不必惋惜。——《玫瑰的故事》
35、何必向不值得的人證明什麽,生活得更好,乃是為你自己。——《忽而今夏》
36、兩個人在一起生活,豈是一項藝術,簡直是修萬裏長城,艱苦的工程。——《玫瑰的故事》
37、有能力的人影響別人,沒能力的一群受人影響。——《喜寶》
38、麻煩來找你,你才去應付它,如不,任它沉睡——《花解語》
39、我要很多很多的愛。如果沒有愛,那麽就很多很多的錢,如果兩件都沒有,有健康也是好的。——《喜寶》
40、聰明人,無謂爭意氣。——《連環》
41、做人要含蓄點,得過且過,不必斤斤計較,水清無魚,人清無徒,誰又不跟誰一輩子,一些事放在心中算了。——《薔薇泡沫》
42、如果有人用鈔票扔你,跪下來,一張張拾起,不要緊,與你溫飽有關的時候,一點點自尊不算什麽。——《喜寶》
43、在黑暗裏,取出杯子,喝幹了酒,千頭萬緒,恨事那麽多,不知道挑哪一宗來咬牙切齒才好,索性全拋在腦後,安靜睡覺。——《忽爾今夏》
44、我提著一個袋子,邊走邊拾。一路上拾起無數我不想要的東西。當我遇到我真正想要的東西之時,袋子已經裝滿了。——《印度墨》
45、一個人走不開,不過因為他不想走開;一個人失約,乃因他不想赴約,一切借口均屬廢話,都是用以掩飾不願犧牲。——《一千零一妙方》
46、凡是人盡可夫的女人,都掛著一個淑女的招牌。——《如今都是錯》
47、人們不解釋的主要原因是根本不在乎對方的想法,無關重要的人,對無關重要的事有點兒誤會,有什麽關係,你信也好,不信也好,都於當事人生活毫無影響,何勞解釋。——《阿修羅》
48、不過女人到底是女人,日子久了就任由感情泛濫萌芽,至今日造成傷心的局麵。女人都癡心妄想,總會坐大,無論開頭是一夜之歡,或是同居,或是逢場作興,到最後老是希望進一步成為白頭偕老,很少有真正瀟灑的女人,她們總是企圖從男人身上刮下一些什麽。——《胭脂》
49、愛一個人決不瀟灑,為自己留了後步的,也就不是愛——《星之碎片》
50、我喜歡向沒有知識但是聰明的人學習,他們那一套不講理、原始,令人難堪,但往往行得通。受過教育的女人事事講風度,連唯一的武器都失掉,任由社會宰割。——《玉梨魂》
51、答通常吸引男人的是這種冷漠,但是男人終於娶的是仰慕他的女人,沒才幹的女人靠嫁人過活,有本事的女人靠自己過活——《城市故事》
52、男人!當你要求一個女人像女人的時候,問問你自己有幾成像男人!——《城市故事》
53、如花美眷,也敵不過似水流年。——《風信子》
54、人生短短數十載,最要緊是滿足自己,不是討好他人。——《美麗新世界》
55、人們往往隻相信他們願意相信的事——《舊歡如夢》
56、世上沒有免費午餐,無論什麽,總得付出代價。——《花解語》
57、十年寒窗,十年苦幹,再加上十足十的運氣,才能有一份事業,你別把事情看得太容易,大多數人隻能有一份職業,借之糊口,辛勞一生,有多少人敢說他的工作是事業?——《圓舞》
58、在金錢與愛情麵前賣弄自尊,是最愚蠢的事。——《我的前半生》
59、人是那樣複雜的一種動物,想了解對方根本是不可能的一件事,沒有了解,又不能相處,倒不如獨身。——《美嬌嫋》
60、社會隻愛健康的聰明的,肯拚命的人,誰耐心跟誰婆婆媽媽,生活中一切都變成公事,互相利用,至於世態炎涼,人情淡薄,統統是正常的。——《小學同學》
61、做不到是你自己的事,午夜夢回,你愛怎麽回味就怎麽回味,但人前人後,我要你裝出什麽都沒有發生過的樣子。你可以的,我們都可以,人都是這般活下來的。——《歎息橋》
62、一生不知要捱多少批鬥:力爭上遊是不自量力,精打細算變為太工心計,保護自身即是自私自利,簡直做什麽錯什麽,被欺壓得退往牆角,不外是因為無人撐腰。——《黑羊》
63、你要改是因為你自己願意改,不要為任何人,怕隻怕那人會令你失望,你又得打回原形。——《不易居》
64、一代不如一代,一代比一代辛苦,這一代最辛苦的是已經認為辛苦是理所當然的一件事。——《假夢真淚》
65、許多人並不相愛,卻可以相處一輩子,愛是非常容易令人厭倦的。——《媽媽》
66、一個人要超越他的環境及出身,進步是不夠的,非要進化不可,那樣大業,豈能人人做到。——《風滿樓》
67、一生像似太長,卻又太短,待搞清楚有何心願,二十一年已經過去,那麽四十歲之前若不匆匆把所有該做或不該做之事做妥,之後也無甚作為,所以人人不夠時間——《紅塵》
68、有得有失,才是人生,切忌忿忿不平。——《天上所有的星》
69、哭要一個人躲著哭,笑呢全世界陪你笑——《愛情之死》
70、人際關係這一門科學永遠沒有學成畢業的一日,每天都似投身於砂石中,緩緩磨動,皮破血流之餘所積得的寶貴經驗便是一般人口中的圓滑。——《我的前半生》
71、騙一個人,要費好大的勁,不在乎她又如何肯騙她,所以將來有人苦苦蒙騙你,千萬不要拆穿他。——《忽爾今夏》
72、自由社會,自由選擇,要笑得出才能笑,否則,笑比哭還難看,也不必勉強。——《豔陽天》
73、真正的才華如火焰般難以收藏,總會燎原。——《曾經深愛過》
74、也許一個人在真正無可奈何的時候,除了微笑,也隻好微笑了。——《家明與玫瑰》
75、做人凡事要靜;靜靜地來,靜靜地去,靜靜努力,靜靜收獲,切忌喧嘩。——《直至海枯石爛》
76、人其實很難真正自由,鎖住人的,往往是那人自己。不知不覺,我們不是做了感情的奴隸,就是事業的婢仆。——《連環》
77、蛋糕非常香,咖啡十分甜,這裏又沒有地震,活著真好。——《承歡記》
You must find something beyond love, something that will support your feet on this earth. You must find a way to support yourself—it is not too late to consider that now. I never considered diplomas to be most important. Most geniuses did not graduate from top schools, yet without formal schooling, sometimes it would be hard for you to handle normal things.
You must gradually transform those fleeting thoughts into a clear way of thinking through simple words of expression. Pompousness and gaudiness will never last. You should know, it is not enough to make your words pleasurable to read; what is more important is its content, thought, realm, soul, spirit and wisdom. Do not read too much written by those writers who have views similar to yours. Don’t be trivial; don’t moan and groan without being ill. Don't give pen to all your thoughts. Don’t be sentimental and emotional for petty things.
My dear sister, you should trust warmth, benevolence, confidence, and respect – these ancient words. I don’t want you to be decadent, nihilistic, confused, self-inflicted nor to hurt others.
I do not want you to mess up your own life. Constrain your own feelings. Not all people can be your buddies. To taste real life is quite another story. It doesn’t mean that you can be decadent and undisciplined. Do not pursue these things for the sake of "coolness" or something of the sort. They are only the excuses of those who have nothing to do other than to indulge themselves. The true coolness is inside your heart. You should have a very big and strong heart, with unyielding belief that will never wane with the time. Don’t say that you love this world because you are inside an ivory tower. You should continue to say these words after you see the dark, the filthy, and the ugly in the world.
Sister, learn to love and live. Youth is short, but do not complain of its shortness. Sometimes you should pause and rest, but do not squat down and look around. When you take a road, please do not look back.
Often ask yourself: what are you doing?
When you feel sad and wronged, you should cry out loudly. When you finish crying, go wash and pat your face, then put a smile on it. Do not rub your eyes, or you will have swollen eyes the next day.
Set great goals and high expectations for yourself.
Please remember you should often look at the sky. Also remember to look at the road under your feet from time to time.
At any time, when you are asked by anyone, how many love experiences you have, the answer is twice.
One time, he loved me and I did not love him.
The other time, I love him, but he did not love me.
The good love is always the next time.
Never give the same man two opportunities to hurt you. Never trust his vows on the bed.
Don’t overprice virginity, but retain chastity.
Don’t be ashamed of your desires. Enjoy your life, but never tolerate insults and indolence from men.
Believe me, sister, there are plenty of men, more than the three-legged frogs. Never easily say out the word "love".
Trust your own intuition.
Never bother with other men, unless you really love him and that he deserves your love.
Never bother with a man who is looking for someone who is similar to his former girlfriend, his mother or his sisters.
Never bother with a loafer, an artistic youth or a middle-aged man. Do not bother a man who is too pure for the love.
Don’t get together with seemingly careless guys. Degrading yourself is not true love.
Never be moved when a man demean himself in order to please you. You should know if he burns himself with cigarette butts by now, he will do the same thing to you in the future.
Observe the man’s friends, especially how they treat ladies.
Do not believe in a man who won’t introduce you to his friends.
When a man can only call you "Baby", you should persist in asking him to call you by your name.
When a man comes to you no more, do not go after him. Do not believe in anyone who employ strategic maneuvers in love.
When you have to separate with the man, do not use ugly words. Learn a lesson from it but do not feel regret. Regret is futile.
Never commit third-class petty things like tearing pictures, burning letters, destroy journals that often appear in soap operas.
Trust in love; believe that there is a good man out there, unmarried and looking for you in the sea of people. Don’t say that "no man under the sun is good," from which other people might think you are too experienced in love.
Listen to me: never be a woman who in the middle of night takes her luggage from one boyfriend’s home and moves to another one.
Love materials properly. You should know non-material stuff is more important. The more beautiful thing is you yourself: you are better than expensive watches, name brands and fashion stuff.
Never look down upon working people, never be ashamed of working. The earth is not dirty at all, and the smell of sweat is not too bad. Always respect those people whose living conditions are below you. This way is the way to respect you own self. Always be considerate and compassionate with those people who live in the bottom of the society because our relatives are among them.
We are not enervated.
Don’t look down upon one penny. Go try to make it.
When you are hurt by your friends, do not doubt friendship, but beware of the people who may betray you.
Always forgive, but never forget.
Keep you your own pure of heart from childhood, and be chivalrous to your friends.
Be happy, open-minded, firm but warm. This has nothing to do with your character.
I worry you are too meek. Sometimes, you should be strong. When you are bullied, you should stand up and fight back.
But you should never bear grudges, no matter what petty things people might say.
Pity and compassion will make you a noble lady.
Please excuse this world and yourself. Tell yourself that you deserve the best in the world.
Love,
Your brother
這些語錄,我是讀著讀著就迷糊了。:)