2011-04-02

From  << Beyond Reason>> by Roger Fisher & Daniel Sharpiro



A fullfilling role has three key qualities


1. It has a clear purpose. ..whether to improve society or to relax by taking a walk. A clear purpose  provides an overarching fromewrk to your behaviour.

2. It is personally meaningful.Only you can know with certainty what is personally meaningful to you.  Often, a role may be meaningful in relation to what you do. A meaningful role incorporates your skills, interests, values and beliefs into the task at hand. Meaningful is not only what you do but also in how you perceive a situation. Your role can be meaningful in relation to how you" make meaning' of a situation.



3. It is not a pretense When we talk of playing a role, it may sound as though each of us is an actor pretending to be someone else. But the core concern that each of us has with role is not a matter of who you should pretend to be, but rather with the role that defines who you really are. In this life-the life you are living, not  a life you are pretending to live--you want to have a fullfilling role.

In one sense, of course, you are on stage. You are assuming a role and playing yourself in that role. But that role is not a pretense. It is for keeps. It is realy you, being yourself.