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With all the things I heard and articles I read, together with personal experiences, one big question inevitably popped in my head, "WHAT DO WOMEN WANT ?" in China these days?
[Note: I am not trying to crititize Females in China and I also understand that not every woman is the same.]
It seems to me that this new modern trend in China nowadays for women is to ask for a richer boy-friend/husband, at least own one house and the more the better especially if you do not have to pay for it, fancy and expensive clothing and jewelry and makeups and exotic vacatioins,etc. One of the most important things is that she has to be better(mostly financially) than all her friends. One time I asked a friend in China that what she really liked about Chanel No. 5 perfume. Guess what she answered to me," It is very expensive and everyone knows it." That is right. She did not really care about what it was, it looks like, it is all about money. I am not blaming her for that, she must have found that when she uses it and talks about it, she gets all the envy from her friends and it gave her quite some satisfaction. What had happened to China these days?
Money is very important in many things. But should it be almost the most important thing in our lives? Is it going to be the ultimate measurement of being happy and successful? Should we all look forward only to Money in our lives? Obviously not. Anyone would say No to these questions. Yet, they still actually use it as a measurement to almost everything. I know this is not just China's modern problem, the world has it. However, I feel it particularly strong and obvious in China. The people in the western world may just hide it better, I do not know. One thing I do know is that there are certainly "gold diggers" and some of them are very honestly about it too in the western culture as well.
Sure, you can persue whatever you want out of your life. That is your right and freedom. Maybe I am just out of date and getting too old that I can not follow the new trend. And, I do not want to follow this trend. I really hope these modern ladies ask themselves the question, "What do I really want and makes me happy?", "Is it really the same thing that everyone else thinks and what the TV and commercials advertise?"
[Note: I am not trying to crititize Females in China and I also understand that not every woman is the same.]
It seems to me that this new modern trend in China nowadays for women is to ask for a richer boy-friend/husband, at least own one house and the more the better especially if you do not have to pay for it, fancy and expensive clothing and jewelry and makeups and exotic vacatioins,etc. One of the most important things is that she has to be better(mostly financially) than all her friends. One time I asked a friend in China that what she really liked about Chanel No. 5 perfume. Guess what she answered to me," It is very expensive and everyone knows it." That is right. She did not really care about what it was, it looks like, it is all about money. I am not blaming her for that, she must have found that when she uses it and talks about it, she gets all the envy from her friends and it gave her quite some satisfaction. What had happened to China these days?
Money is very important in many things. But should it be almost the most important thing in our lives? Is it going to be the ultimate measurement of being happy and successful? Should we all look forward only to Money in our lives? Obviously not. Anyone would say No to these questions. Yet, they still actually use it as a measurement to almost everything. I know this is not just China's modern problem, the world has it. However, I feel it particularly strong and obvious in China. The people in the western world may just hide it better, I do not know. One thing I do know is that there are certainly "gold diggers" and some of them are very honestly about it too in the western culture as well.
Sure, you can persue whatever you want out of your life. That is your right and freedom. Maybe I am just out of date and getting too old that I can not follow the new trend. And, I do not want to follow this trend. I really hope these modern ladies ask themselves the question, "What do I really want and makes me happy?", "Is it really the same thing that everyone else thinks and what the TV and commercials advertise?"
喜歡您的文筆，羨慕您的英文。我會常來的。
Nobody want to be a loser. Every women want to be beautiful and loved. Human beings need community. need to be acknowledged and respected. Nothing bad. Life is sad, since everything beautiful outside are all mortal. Time to think about something immortal.