暖冬cool夏
這裏一年四季溫暖如春，沒有酷暑沒有嚴寒......
My trip to China would not be complete without seeing relatives and having sumptuous dinners, a tradition that is imbedded in our culture and dies hard. Honestly I don’t like being enveloped in an enclosed room with loud noise and stagnant air, where people eat, smoke, drink and talk. But a get-together might be the most effective way to greet everybody without visiting door to door. Being away for so many years, unfamiliarity breeds, though Mom has been doing a good job filling the gap, telling me the stories about the younger generation and each family during my absence, and I piece them together with my own imaginations.
Xiao Shuang is my niece. She is slim, tall, and pretty. Under her short but stylish hair is a face with fair skin, typical to Southeastern girls in the area. She is still single in her early 30s, considered to be a “leftover girl” in the public eyes. I remember seeing in year 2014’s Spring Festival when I was home, talking to her into any possible relationship. Five years have gone by, and she remains unmarried. She never reveals her inner self to me of how it feels being alone. When asked how her routine weekends are like, she would tell me that she whiles them away reading, listening to music or watching movies. But what mom later told me made my jaw drop. A quiet shy girl like her turns out to be a frantic fan of certain singers, pursuing the live concerts as far as in Spain. Additionally, she frequented Shanghai for new movies premiere, staying there overnight just for a movie.
I tried to find commonality among her life and mine, asking myself where I was at her age. In my whole life, I’ve never been to one big live concert. My ideology is more traditional, thinking that life without marriage is never complete, not that your name is not carried on nor your bloodline is not extended, but life should be multifaceted. Being single, you never know what it tastes to have your other half filled, matched or mismatched.
But I guess she lives her own way, independently and self-fulfillingly. Even though in poeple's eyes she is a 3S women, a term coined in early 2000s standing for "single, seventies (1970s) (she is 1980s) and stuck", she does not feel herself stuck in middle of anywhere, but carefree without the bondage. With a decent job and income, she does not seem to need a marriage to step up herself into instant wealth or higher social status. Plus, there is no free lunch in this world, gaining means sacrifice.
沒有牛奶可以用豆漿或almand silk 代替的，也可以買那種小罐裝的牛奶。
問好暖冬，周末快樂！
當然，不想結婚，不將就的，喜歡單身貴族的，不在此列。
有些是不想嫁，單身主義，但是如果有好的追求就嫁了就不是真單身主義。
我親戚裏也有，也沒辦法，父母愁，不想你表姐那樣想的開。
在找男朋友問題上，好的定義是很個體化的，不是好男人沒有了，而是沒遇到合適的人，社交麵還沒寬到遇見情人。
人的外表不代表一切，但看著不舒服都沒有交往下去的感覺啊。碰上性格，人品不理想的會給自己帶來累贅和痛苦。不結婚（或晚婚）倒是很自由，國內人比較熟絡不會太人單影隻，就是國內父母，親戚朋友等會nagging, 很煩。
寧缺勿濫，千萬別湊合，小雙自己快樂就好。
And hone your strength everyday. Marry or not, you are going to needed it.
我兩者都經曆過，最後總結還是一個人更容易得到幸福。