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An Encounter of the homeless in Seattle

(2019-05-26 22:02:36) 下一個

The unusually sunny Seattle sky greeted us as we walked out the airport and waited for the bus to the downtown for the reserved rental car. It was an August noon of 2008 perhaps, our first trip to Seattle. My daughter was then a middle school girl, who we took with to Seattle and Vancouver family summer vacation.

The expected big bus came and halted on the curb. We boarded the crowded bus from the rear door. No obvious empty seats were in sight.  So, we stood next to the entrance, with one hand tending to the carryon luggage, and the other gripping tightly to a bar, as the bus started moving and joggling along. Coming from a state where public transportation is least developed, we seldom took buses locally.  While I am familiar with sardined- like buses in my years in China, taking buses was not something my daughter was used to. I saw her curious eyes moving around, and instantly followed them.  The passengers in the bus were mostly nonchalantly looking, dozing or staring expressionlessly ahead.  When my eyes were searching through the crowd, a guy in his forties beckoned us smilingly from the rear rows, nudged himself a bit, and pointed to an empty seat by him. Without a second thought, I led my daughter to the seat and had her sit there.  As I secured my position against the side of the seat, I was able to look at him closely.  He had long black hair, some mustache under his mouth just as bushy and black.  His eyes gleamed with some humility and eagerness.  Nothing unusual until my eyes fell on the overcoat he worn on a summer day, and that the coat was smeared with grease.  Resting upon the equally dirty pants were his two filthy hands, each fingernail long and black.  It was only then did it occur to me that he was a homeless man. No wonder he had an empty seat by his side, no wonder people around chose to stand! I thought to myself, and for a moment, I was regretful of the move, worrying about the possible fleas he could contagiously carry.

It was his kindness that radiated from his eyes and the talkativeness that made me not pull my daughter off the seat. He talked incessantly, asking us questions as where we were from and what we were going to do in the city. When knowing that we were from California, he relayed the topic to the sunny state, and began telling his story.  The conversation between him, my daughter and me continued as the buses moved towards the hustling downtown.  Around twenty minutes later, he stood up to get off at bus, a stop in the downtown, where he was going to spend the day with his fellows, loitering away as he had been doing every day.

I had never expected that the first person we met and talked to on our Seattle trip was a homeless stranger. Neither had I anticipated that this encounter enabled my daughter to produce an essay for her college application five years later.  While I was laden with the worry of fleas, I did not attend carefully to the babbling talk of the homeless man. But my daughter’s essay written five years later recollected the conversations that I was not aware of.  Her choice of submitting that essay as one of her college applications surprised me, in which she spoke of her awakening growth, as she tried to understand the struggle of the homeless, which she would have never bothered to care.

 

Reading John Steinbeck’s travelogue reminded me of this trip, and her essay.  Life is a journey. As she later left home and the bubble city for the college, in her first year, almost every day she had to pass by a park on the campus, where a group of the homeless clustered for the night. And I, a mom who worried about her safety after her night classes, attempted to remind her to avoid the homeless people. But she took it into her stride, saying that they were nice, however filthy and vulgar they might look outside.  I later attributed her fearlessness to her first encounter of the homeless in Seattle,  as she knew that we don’t always judge people by the appearance.  

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暖冬cool夏 回複 悄悄話 回複 '7grizzly' 的評論 : Good to know your point of view, treating them as individuals and equal. I guess they are used to the life and like the freedom:) They are cynic. Thanks, my friend, and have a nice new week!
7grizzly 回複 悄悄話 That was an interesting experience!
Among the homeless, some choose to live that way. They trace all the way back to Diogenes the cynic. They don't need pity or even compassion. I would try to treat them as individuals and equals.
暖冬cool夏 回複 悄悄話 回複 'Once-always' 的評論 : Oncemm好! 這是個大topic,孩子嘛總以為自己可以save the world,又受liberal思潮的影響,可以理解,據說有些homeless的人很有才的。我當年真是擔心的,她說經過的地方有時都可以看到poop。在我們常人眼裏,你年紀輕輕,有手有腳,為什麽靠政府救濟?我們這裏曾經為建一個homeless center抗議遊行,因為這些人吸毒,滿地的針頭,拒絕戒毒,隨處大小便,是個很大的安全隱患,是政策養了懶人啊。Oncemm寫吧,這個話題值得一寫。謝謝mm臨博,祝夏天開心快樂!
Once-always 回複 悄悄話 I meant “have the same uneasy feelings at that moment.”
Once-always 回複 悄悄話 讀完暖mm這篇英文小作,很是感慨。if I were in your shoes I would definitely have the uneasy feelings. 你女兒選這件小事寫essay,我很理解。在紐約,每天我都會從不同的homeless people身旁走過,好幾次我有衝動寫一個流浪者係列,很遺憾一直沒有提筆。我就是想說,你女兒有一顆敏感善良的心,好為你驕傲!
暖冬cool夏 回複 悄悄話 回複 '每天一講' 的評論 : 一講好! 你說得對,Everyone has a story to tell就是她essay裏的一個句子,旅途路上碰到的taxi driver, 北京機場碰到的小留學生,都開闊了我們的視野。And you are absolutely that We need to be more compassionate. Thank you for your visit and reading it. Have a great new week!
每天一講 回複 悄悄話 暖冬,Thank you for your story!

I feel we all need to be more compassionate, and realize that EVERYONE has a story, EVERYONE has a past, and that we can't JUDGE people just by what their life looks like now.
暖冬cool夏 回複 悄悄話 回複 'yy56' 的評論 : 聞香請喝茶!女兒在essay中寫的還不止這些,寫到那人不經意間的話對她的啟發。是的,隻有親身體驗到的才會改變一個人的看法。謝謝你的留言。
yy56 回複 悄悄話 我想,這次經曆對你女兒很有啟示,或許這也為她怎麽看待一個人打開了一扇窗,那就是不要隻看表麵的東西。
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