The Success Principles-1

The Sccuess Principles-How to Get From Where You Are to Where You Want to Be

The author Jack Canfield is the cocreator of the famous Chicken Soup for the Soul series. In this book he offers over 60 principles to inspire people who wants to be a better people, to achieve their dreams.

For me, I don't really know or care too much about sccess. but I do need to feel better about my life and about myself. I don't want to feel dead inside, everything stopped for me. What I seek is spiritual growth, to be mature, understanding and full of love and passion for life.

一方麵，我希望自己成熟豁達寵辱不驚；另一方麵，如果沒有世俗意義的成功，一切聽起來又似乎是軟弱無力似空中樓閣。希望自己能生活得更加積極，而不隻是消極的等待。回憶自己的前幾十年，雖然懵懂被動，可是最關鍵的幾步卻是自己主動出擊得到的機會。仔細一想，似乎頗有玄機。性格決定命運，想改變自己的命運，就要破除習慣的慣性，修繕自己的性格，其他的上天自會決定。

'The principles always work if you work the principles. If you learn them, assimilate them, and apply them with discipline every day, they will transform your life beyond your wildest dream.'

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Principle 1: Take 100% Responsibility for Your Life

簡單說來，就是不要怨天尤人，凡事反省自己,這樣才能把握自己的生活事業以及命運

說起來好簡單的道理，真正能做到的人已經非常讓人敬重了.

It is only by acknowledging that you have created everything up until now that you can take charge of creating the future you want.

You have to give up all your excuses, all your victim stories, all the reasons why you can't and why you haven't up until now, and all your blaming of outside circumstances.

99% of all failures come from people who have a habit of making excuses

Event + Response = Outcome (和佛教中的因果同出一轍）

If you don't like the outcomes, change your responses.

If something doesn't turn out as planned, you will ask yourself:

How did I create that?

What was I thinking?

What were my beliefs?

What did I do or not do to create that results?

How did I get the other person to act that way?

What do I need to do differently next time to get the result I want?

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You only have control over three things in your life-the thoughts you think, the images you visualize, and the actions you take (your behavior).

How you use these three things determines everything you experience. If you don't like what you are producing and experiencing, you have you change your responses.

Change your negative thoughts to positive ones

Change what you daydream about

Change your habits

Change what you read

Change how you talk

Change your friends

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INSANITY-Continuing the Same Behavior and Expecting a Different Result.

Insanity 是瘋狂，愚昧，神經錯亂，不過這裏是不是翻譯為妄想症更貼切？因為神智健全的人不是常常有這種幻想嗎？總期待著什麽也不做，問題就會自動消失，期待天上會掉餡餅，期待上天的奇跡出現，期待不勞而獲...

The day you change your responses is the day your life will begin to get better.

It takes COURAGE to ask for a behavioral change.
人們喜歡抱怨而不願行動，其實是缺乏勇氣，害怕風險。比如抱怨自己的配偶，而不是積極有效的交流尋求解決途徑或者幹脆離婚。抱怨是最容易，最不需要努力而讓自己感覺良好的辦法。可惜，抱怨是不能解決問題的辦法。

Learn to replace complaining with making requests and taking action that will achieve your desired outcomes. that is what works.

Many times we simply allow things to happen to us by our INACTION and our UNWILLIONGNESS to do what is NECESSARY to create or maintain what we want.
這個應該我最有體會了，消極被動的等待命運的決定而不是主動爭取。自己個性比較高傲很多事不屑於做，或者不知道怎麽去做的就采取鴕鳥政策。不聽不想不問，最後得到讓自己失望的結果不也是預料之中的事嗎？

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事情發生之間都是有征兆的， 你注意到了嗎？
Clues, inklings (暗示）, suspicions, fleeting thought, intuition, gut feeling
that fear that emerged
that dream that woke you up in the middle of the night

是的，你注意到了，種種跡象都表明事情不妙，但你選擇去忽略，選擇不相信。

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改變你的思想和行為，仔細觀察結果。對自己誠實，你會知道這些改變是否有效：你是否感覺更快樂，工作是否更有成效，夫妻關係是否改善。

Ask for feedback

Slow down and pay attention. Life will always give you feedback about the effects of your behavior if you will just pay attention.

To implement principles requires concentrated awareness, dedicated discipline, and a willingness to experiment and take risks.

執行這些成功準則需要你高度清晰，嚴格執行，自願實驗並承擔風險