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生怕閑愁暗恨,多少事、欲說還休。 今年瘦,非幹病酒,不是悲秋。
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以前寫下的一個故事

(2005-08-02 16:40:02) 下一個

Jerry的好朋友Earl去逝了,Earl是這裏一所學校(小學+初中)的校長,是經濟學家,他在我們這裏做過幾個講座,大家都說他是一個很好的人,也很智慧。我沒有幸運遇到他。上周六,Jerry和Carol去參加了Earl的悼念會,今天中午吃飯的時候,Jerry和我們分享了悼念會的一些故事。

“一段默悼之後,有人開始站起來講述Earl生前的事情,我印象最深的是一個老師,她說Earl生病之後,準備辭去校長的職位,開始公開的招聘一個新校長。她的學生,一個五年級的男孩,寫信去應聘。Earl回信說,很高興男孩熱愛教育,不過他應該先了解一下校長的職責。於是他們約了一個時間,來看看校長需要做些什麽,男孩是不是適合。

  “聊了一陣之後,男孩若有所思的說,
  ‘哦,看起來校長要做的事還不少,責任很大,那你會不會覺得壓力很大呢?’
   Earl答,‘有的時候會,你有沒有這樣的時候呢?’
  ‘有的。’
  ‘麵對壓力,你有什麽好辦法來緩解嗎?’
  ‘有的。’男孩說。
  ‘哦,可以告訴我嗎?’
  ‘當然’男孩說著站了起來,然後撲到地上,開始滿地打滾,扭動身體,又是蹬腿,又是伸手。一陣子之後,男孩站起來,‘這就是我的辦法。’
  ‘哦,’Earl從他的椅子上站起來,‘我也來試一試好麽?’於是他也開始了滿地亂扭。”


Jerry一邊說一邊揮舞著他的雙手,扭動著他的身體,給我們做示範。我們四個聽眾加上Jerry都笑得呼吸困難。想象著70歲的校長,如此的在地上滾來滾去,在五年級的學生麵前,實在是讓人發笑。

但同時,Jerry的眼淚也流下淚了。幾分鍾之後,我們才略微止助大笑,Jerry接著說下去,“結束談話的時候,Earl對男孩說,‘你的方法真是太不錯,要是我早點知道就好了。’幾天之後,男孩又給校長寫了封信,說校長的職責太大,他覺得還是過幾年在申請比較好。”
:)

“還有一個Earl的朋友,她在Earl病重之後去醫院看望Earl。她走進病房的時候,Earl仰麵躺著,閉著眼睛。感覺到又人走近,Earl很勉強的睜開眼睛。‘你好嗎?’她小心翼翼的問。Earl很燦爛的笑了(A big small came across his face),‘我杯子裏的茶都溢出來了(My cup of tea is spilling over. 出自聖經故事,我杯子裏的茶都溢出來了,意為好的不能再好了)。’”

“Earl的妻子也說了一件事:最後一周,Earl回到家裏。從醫院到家裏,移動對於當時的Earl已經是一件很艱難痛苦的事了。可是剛剛到家裏,安頓下來沒有幾分鍾,Earl就微微的招手,把妻子叫到身邊。妻子撫身傾聽,Earl微弱的說,‘院子裏的花需要澆水了。’”

“會上還有倆位日本人,那位女士專程從廣島趕來,她不會講英文,所以帶了一個翻譯來。女士是廣島原子彈爆炸的少數幾個幸存者之一,之後一直在戰爭博物館裏做講解員,讓人們看到戰爭的危害,宣揚和平。Earl每年都會送一些學生去日本,一個月左右,讓學生了解日本曆史和文化,每次他們都會去戰爭廣島的博物館。每年原子彈投放的那天,Earl自己也會去廣島,去廣島的戰爭博物館,去道歉,去悼念死去了的人們。”

 

“一上午的時間,我們就是這樣不停的笑著,留著淚渡過的。”雖然沒有看到,但是我還是深深的被感動了,得到了Jerry的同意,粗粗的把這些故事寫下來,以下是華盛頓日報上Earl的卟告

 

 

 

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Earl G. Harrison Jr., 71; Longtime Sidwell Headmaster
Wednesday, November 12, 2003; Page B07

Earl G. Harrison Jr., 71, headmaster of Sidwell Friends School for two decades, died of abdominal cancer Nov. 10 at his home in Washington.

Mr. Harrison, who retired in 1998 after a lifetime of teaching, was credited with guiding the nation's largest Quaker day school through the creation of a diversity program and a Chinese studies program; improving the financial aid available to students; increasing the endowment from $300,000 to $12.2 million; expanding the lower school building; and renovating the upper school building, which was named in his honor.

Colleagues and family members say that even more than his accomplishments, Mr. Harrison showed them a reverence for silence, the hallmark of Quaker life, which allowed him to exercise his thoughtful, compassionate nature.

"Even in tennis, he was very gentle," said Rich Lodish, principal of Sidwell's lower school, who often played Mr. Harrison. "When I would miss a shot, which was quite often, he would come over and was kind and gentle in talking about what I could do better the next time. That's the way he lived life. He would kindly and gently push and prod people to do better and to be better."

Students found him approachable as well, whether on the fields, where he enthusiastically cheered for school athletes, or at graduation, where the school tradition was to have some fun at the expense of the headmaster. One year, the graduates put bells in his pockets. Another year, they dropped pennies in a bucket for his "retirement fund."

During his tenure, a White House resident, Chelsea Clinton, attended the school, as did many other children of high-powered individuals. But those from families that were neither rich nor famous were also students.

"He embodied the Quaker ideal of simplicity, and his own groundedness and centeredness kept everyone on an even keel," said Susan Sachs Goldman, former chairwoman of the school board. "He talked to groundskeepers, he talked to the president of the United States. . . . He was unfailingly, equally open-hearted to them all."

Mr. Harrison was born in Philadelphia and attended Westtown School, where he would later be headmaster. He won a gold medal in the School Boy Mile Relay at the 1950 Penn Relays. Mr. Harrison graduated from Haverford College in 1954 and later earned a divinity degree from Yale University and a master's degree in education from Columbia University Teachers College.

He participated in overseas work camps in Kenya, El Salvador, Germany and Holland. In Holland, he helped rebuild dikes destroyed in World War II.

He was an instructor at Antioch College from 1956 until 1958 and then director of the Council for Religion in Independent Schools. After teaching at Brooklyn Friends School in New York and the William Penn Charter School in Philadelphia, he became headmaster of Westtown School in 1968 at the age of 35. His job was to bring the traditional Quaker boarding school, founded in 1799, into better harmony with the times.

Mr. Harrison soon broke his leg while playing soccer, and the sight of the headmaster hobbling about campus on crutches seemed to help his relationship with the rebellious students of the era, one of his sons said. Both sons attended Westtown while their father was headmaster.

Mr. Harrison also served on the board of trustees of the Good Hope School in St. Croix for a dozen years and on the board of managers of Haverford College for another dozen years. He was awarded honorary degrees from Haverford and Yale Divinity School.

Survivors include his wife of 46 years, Jean Harrison of Washington; two sons, Dana, of Silver Spring and Colin, of Brooklyn, N.Y.; and five grandchildren.

?2003 The Washington Post Company

 

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鳳凰台上 回複 悄悄話 Indeed, I was so moved that there was one moment that tears watered my eyes while Jerry was telling the story.
m38 回複 悄悄話 What a story and what a character
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