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兒子在一月份舉辦婚禮，迎娶新娘。
這一兒子的人生大事，對我們當父母的來說，又何其不是我們自己的人生大事。我們早早準備行裝。孩子他媽為準備一件風光得體的行頭費盡了心思，千挑萬選，自己還進行改裝、加飾件，再經過多位朋友的評頭品足，最後才決定下來在婚禮上穿什麽。
當然在臨行前還要為兒子兒媳做點好吃的。
自己做月餅。
五仁大餡兒。
月餅出爐啦。
一早來到紐約JFK機場，等待去舊金山的班機。大疫當前，乘客零零散散地如小貓兩三隻。
婚禮現場在舊金山市政廳。
一對新人閃亮登場！
新人為賓客翩翩獻舞。
夫婦二人決定婚禮一切從簡，這正是二人相同的簡樸風格。沒去教堂，也不請伴娘伴郎。因為疫情的關係，把邀請的賓客也限製在最小範圍。至於蜜月旅行也隻能等到將來。
妹妹和男友一直被疫情困在歐洲。為了能趕上哥哥婚禮，幾次更改行程，幾次換機，經過十幾個小時不眠的旅行，終於在婚禮三個小時之前抵達舊金山。連衣服都沒來得及換。
願二人今後攜手並進的路，如今天的華彩樂章一樣，拾級而上，風光無限。
套一句今天的流行語：攜手向未來。
舊金山的夜色。
我們出席新人的晚宴，受到夫婦的夾道歡迎。
親家歡聚懇談。
新人為每一位出席晚宴的來賓精心特製了一份禮物，其中有他們過去交往的照片。
我們也仔細欣賞給我們的禮物和照片。
家庭的回憶總是甜蜜的。這張照片是全家出席兒子的MBA畢業典禮。
這張是出席女兒的大學畢業典禮。
我在晚宴上致辭。
應網友的要求，我在最下麵貼出致辭的全文和中文譯文。沒準兒各位日後也被邀求在孩子的婚禮上致詞時可以借用兩句，版權不究哈。
第二天，兒子兒媳專為前來參加婚禮的年輕人舉辦一次風格活潑的pizza party。
讓孩子們自己去鬧騰吧。我和孩兒他媽為兒子兒媳去看看舊金山的房地產行情。順便來到Land’s End。
”Land’s End“在中文就是”天涯海角“的意思吧？
太平洋。對麵是故鄉。
跨過金門大橋。
在Sausalito的Fish Market吃炸魚。每次來舊金山，我們都會來Sausalito 轉轉。
明天就要離開舊金山了，留下孩子們開始自己獨立的生活。我們全家來到舊金山的製高點，俯瞰城市夜色。
願孩子們的未來如這等絢爛的美景，光華不滅！
Wedding Speech：
Thanks for coming, everybody! Today is a very exciting day. It is exciting because today, this day, is the day, of course, Jessie and D’s wedding day.
But not only that, it is exciting because when D’s Mom gave a birth to D, the nurse gave me a pair of scissors and asked me to cut the umbilical cord, I was holding the scissors, trembling, and thinking about a lot of things, including today.
It is exciting because when I took a Merry-go-around ride together with D and his little sister Cindy at Disneyland, and felt dizzy while seeing the kids laughing and shouting happily, I was thinking about a lot of things, including today.
It is exciting because when D stood by a piano on his little tuxedo, bowed to the applauding audience after his first piano rehearsal, I was thinking about a lot of things, including today.
It is exciting because when two years ago at his Berkley graduation commencement, I saw D on his black gown, on a long line of graduates waiting for their names to be called one by one to go up to take his or her MBA diploma, D raised his arms and waived to us, I was thinking about a lot of things, including today.
It is an exciting day, but also somewhat sentimental day for D’s Mom and me. Because our 31-year-mission is finally over today. We have been enjoying the process so much. Gone with the days when grew together with him. Gone with the days when we could hold him under our wings. We have to give him away. He will be on his own. He will have his own home and his own better half. We will retreat to become a part of his background of his own life. We wish we would become a wallpaper on the computer in his soul, soothing, comforting, inspiring, on which everyday he can open a lot of new windows to the world.
I am proud to say that D inherited my temperament. He is always calm, gentle, amiable and friendly. He never showed his anger. When we scolded him for something, he never retorted, and only kept silent. He always kept his toys neat and clean, in good orders and good shapes. His favorite toys were two maps. One was a U.S. national map and the other one a NYC subway map. He knew the location of every state in America when he was about four years old and even knew the names of most of the state capitals. He put the NYC subway map on the floor and kneeled for long time to study it. He knew which train line was which color and in which station one could change to another train. When his Mom was pregnant with his sister and needed to go to her doctor to have checkups, D carefully designed for Mom a subway itinerary, in which Mom would take less stairs when changing trains.
But frankly D cried a lot as a child. Every time when he was about to cry, first he shut his eyes tightly, trying to hold back tears, and stretched his lips to the ears, and burst into crying, not very loudly, though, and requested: “紙！紙！紙！. Once his piano teacher was a bit tough to him. D started sobbing. At the moment the teacher was at a loss and didn’t know how to calm him down. I laughed and said to the teacher, “Don’t worry. He is just like that. He will be ok.” Before the next piano class, the teacher put a box of tissue paper by D’s side, and said, “This is for you, let’s be prepared for the scene that may happen.”
There was one incident D cried sadly and secretly. He kept it as a secret for many years. Only until very recently when we had a father-and-son chat did he tell me about this incident. Very often I worked late. My firm would give me free dinner and send a taxi to take me home. I usually picked something my kids liked to eat and brought the food home for them. One evening I brought home a bottle of cocoanut soda, which was D’s favorite. The next day D took that bottle to school and planned to enjoy it at lunch time. But it was taken away by his teacher. I imagine the teacher asked, “What’s this? A Molotov cocktail?” Later at lunch time, D saw his teacher holding that “bomb”, drinking! He felt deeply hurt and couldn’t hold back his tears again. That bottle of soda was carried all the way home for him by Dad. D told me he doesn’t have much memory about his elementary school, but that incident he remembered keenly.
D doesn’t cry for a bottle of soda anymore. He is a man now. There is Chinese saying says: 三十而立, which means by thirty years old, you stand straight and tall. The Chinese saying continues: 四十而不惑, which means by forty years old, you have no more doubts. So these ten years from thirty to forty is a critical period in a man’s life: with the experience, background and confidence you already have, you set up your career, set up your value, set up your independent life and set up your family. You stick to your guns and go hard after your goals. So that by forty years old, you can settle down yourself and have no more fears and doubts.
Now, as parents, we too have no more doubts. We have no doubts that D and Jessie will have a happy life together and a happy family forever. We have no doubts that their kids will be as good-looking, as smart, as intelligent, as considerate, as caring and as hard-working as they are. 祝一對新人白頭到老，幸福永遠！May them happy forever! Thank you!
(譯文）
謝謝大家光臨！今天是一個令人激動的日子。我激動，因為今天，這一天，當然了，是J和D的大喜之日。
但不僅如此，我激動還因為，當D的媽媽生下D時，護士給了我一把剪刀，讓我剪臍帶，我拿著剪刀，有些發抖，我想到很多事情，包括今天這個日子。
我激動還因為，當我和D和他的小妹妹辛迪一起乘坐迪斯尼的旋轉木馬時，我感到頭暈目眩，但看到孩子們開心地笑著喊著，我想到很多事情，包括今天這個日子。
我激動還因為，當D穿著他的小燕尾服站在鋼琴旁，在他第一次鋼琴排練後向鼓掌的觀眾鞠躬時，我想到很多事情，包括今天這個日子。
我激動還因為，兩年前在伯克利大學畢業典禮上，我看到D穿著黑色長袍，站在畢業生隊列裏等待上台去領取MBA 文憑時，D舉起手臂向我們揮手，我想到很多事情，包括今天這個日子。
對於D的媽媽和我來說，這是興奮的一天，但也是多少有些傷感的一天。因為我們三十一年的使命在今天就結束了。我們一直非常享受這一過程。一去不複返了，和他一起成長的日子；一去不複返了，可以把他守護在卵翼之下的日子。我們必須放手了，讓他獨立上路。他將擁有自己的家庭和自己的另一半。我們將退後，成為他人生的一部分背景。我們希望我們能成為他心靈電腦上的一張溫馨的壁紙，在上麵每天他可以打開一個個新的視窗，去看大千世界。
我很自豪地說，D繼承了我的性格。他總是冷靜、溫順、和藹、友善。我們從未看到過他發脾氣。當我們因為某事責備他時，他從不回嘴，隻是沉默。他總是保持他的玩具幹淨整潔，井井有條。他最喜歡的玩具是兩張地圖。一張是美國國家地圖，另一張是紐約地鐵地圖。他大約四歲的時候就知道美國每個州的位置，甚至知道大多數州首府的名字。他把紐約地鐵地圖放在地上，跪在那裏研究很久。他知道哪條火車線路是哪種顏色，在哪個車站可以換乘另一輛火車。在媽媽懷了妹妹時，需要去看醫生檢查。D為媽媽精心設計地鐵行程，讓媽媽在換乘火車時可以少走樓梯。
但坦白地說，D小時候經常哭。每次他快要哭的時候，他先是緊緊地閉上眼睛，來強忍淚水，然後把嘴唇一直要伸到耳朵邊，開始不放聲地大哭，“紙！紙！紙！”。有一次，他的鋼琴老師對他有點嚴厲。D又開始哭了。老師不知所措，不知道該如何安撫他。我笑著對老師說：“別擔心。他就是這樣。沒事的。” 下一節鋼琴課前，老師把一盒紙巾紙放在D旁邊，說：“這個給你，讓我們為可能要發生的事情做好準備。”
曾有一件事讓D哭得很傷心。這一直是他多年的一個秘密。直到最近，當我們進行一次父與子傾談時，他才告訴我這件事。那時我經常工作到很晚。我的公司會給我免費的晚餐並派車送我回家。我通常會挑選孩子們喜歡吃的東西，然後把食物帶回家。一天晚上，我帶了一瓶D 喜歡的椰子汽水回家。第二天，D 帶著那個瓶飲料去學校，打算在午飯時間享用。但卻被他的老師沒收了。我想象老師大概在問：“這是什麽？燃燒瓶吧？” 午飯時，D看到他的老師居然舉著那個“炸彈”在喝呢！他頓時感到很委屈，再一次管不住自己的眼淚。那瓶汽水可是爸爸老遠給他帶回家的呀。D告訴我，他對他的小學年代已沒有太多記憶，但那件事他難以忘懷。
現在D不再會為一瓶飲料而哭泣了。他現在是個男人了。中國有古語：“三十而立，四十而不惑。” 從三十歲到四十歲這十年，是人生的關鍵時期 -- 有了你已經擁有的經驗、背景和信心，你開始建立你的事業，建立你的價值觀，建立你的獨立人格，建立你的家庭。你努力拚搏，不達目的不罷休。這樣在四十歲時你就可以安定下來，不再有恐懼和疑惑。
現在，作為父母，我們也不再有任何疑惑。我們沒有疑惑地相信D和J會一起過上幸福的生活。我們沒有疑惑地相信他們的孩子會長得像他們一樣漂亮、一樣明智、一樣聰慧、一樣體貼、一樣溫馨、一樣勤奮。祝一對新人白頭到老，幸福永遠！謝謝大家！
Congratulations
Great story.
Thank you for sharing.
Congratulations
Great story.
Thank you for sharing.
女兒的男朋友是不是以前那個。還是新的呢？看著也很精神。