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女兒申請大學的個人文章-看了淚奔

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今天是加州大學申請表格的最後期限,女兒說今天一定會把文章和申請表遞交,我都被她急死了,怎麽會等到最後一天才遞交呢?如果網站當了,你不是失去機會了?當然,在我們全家左催右促下,她姍姍地把文章給我看,我一讀,就感動得淚奔。然後,抱住女兒說,好文,你真是個好孩子。大家讀讀看,覺得如何。


 

UC Personal Statements Final

 

Special World

 

The world I come from starts as a straight path, then diverts slightly, and then ultimately strays off into a completely new direction. My family owns a family-business, which requires both of my parents to work nearly everyday except for Sunday. My older brother is away at college and I normally stay at home. I often babysit my 15-year old little brother Johnny, who towers above me by two feet and far exceeds my own strength.

I admit that caring for him can be frustrating. He is picky when it comes to how I cook food, and he has difficulty controlling his temper when he is bored. It is difficult to do any homework around him, for that if he wanders off, he could not tell me where he is or call for help if he is hurt.

Occasionally, I find myself reflecting on this question: what would my life be like if my little brother was not autistic? Perhaps I would find myself in a typical family, where Johnny would attend school and aspire to go to college, where Johnny would learn how to drive, where Johnny would one day leave home behind. After reflecting upon this, I then ask myself if that is what I truly want. The answer will always be the same; I want to live the life I live in now.

My little brother Johnny is my beacon of hope the hope that people can learn to accept our differences, big or small. He made me see that there are things I cannot control, and that I should embrace them if they come. As I grew up, I struggled between living a life with the heightened responsibilities needed for Johnny and a life that ignored the challenges that come with Johnny.

 

In the beginning, all I wanted was to strive for my own aspirations, believing extensive responsibility for Johnny will hold me back. I tried to block out Johnnys presence in my mind, feeling that if I dwelled and fretted upon his condition, I would not have the opportunity to strive for myself. I was wrong; here I am, writing an essay for college, where many opportunities await.

 

There were times when I was afraid to be associated with Johnny in public for his erratic behavior. Often I pretended to not know him when I was with my family, as if being with him was something shameful. Back then, I was naīve, fearing that I would not be accepted for having a different kind of brother. Now, after meeting people of different backgrounds, I can see that success is not defined by ones own self-satisfaction but through accepting the differences of others. Every time I am with Johnny now, I feel as though he is not just my brother but my teacher of tolerance, showing that it is possible for people of different abilities to live with each other.

 

So as I think of such things where Johnny is "normal", I always remind myself that my perspectives of people are shaped by his influence on my life, and that I prefer this "special" version of him over a "normal"Johnny. I am grateful that I come from a family with a wonderful little brother who has taught me more than I could ever ask for, even if it makes my life is a bit unique.

 

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人間的盒子 回複 悄悄話 收藏了。
womaninhome 回複 悄悄話 回複 '閑閑客' 的評論 : 謝謝閑閑這麽說讚美話,把女兒和我都誇了一遍。新年愉快。
womaninhome 回複 悄悄話 回複 '叔丁' 的評論 : 謝謝屬丁的讚美和祝福。節日愉快。
閑閑客 回複 悄悄話 為你的女兒驕傲!好兒女離不開父母的好家教。祝願你女兒順利進入她心儀的學校。
叔丁 回複 悄悄話 成熟,有責任感,溫暖的小女孩。all the best!
womaninhome 回複 悄悄話 回複 'wawale' 的評論 : 謝謝娃娃。希望是這樣。。新年愉快。
wawale 回複 悄悄話 好文章,一定能打動那些評審!祝福她!
womaninhome 回複 悄悄話 回複 '南山鬆' 的評論 : 女兒比我想像得要懂事,謝謝你。
南山鬆 回複 悄悄話 寫的真好,懂事成熟的女兒.
謝謝家mm分享,新周快樂!
womaninhome 回複 悄悄話 回複 '桃鎮' 的評論 : 謝謝桃鎮。真希望她夢想成真。
womaninhome 回複 悄悄話 回複 'NotALawyer2' 的評論 : 謝謝你。
womaninhome 回複 悄悄話 回複 '南胖子' 的評論 : 謝謝南胖子。希望如此。
桃鎮 回複 悄悄話 看完就淚奔了!願她能夠錄到她心儀的學校。
NotALawyer2 回複 悄悄話 讚,全是智慧和正能量
南胖子 回複 悄悄話 很感動,你女兒一定會去她想去的學校。
womaninhome 回複 悄悄話 回複 '小聲音' 的評論 : 謝謝美女,希望她夢想成真。
womaninhome 回複 悄悄話 回複 'XL彩虹' 的評論 : 謝謝彩虹。希望托你的吉言能夠上她喜歡的加州大學。
小聲音 回複 悄悄話 寫的真好,女兒不僅聰明而且成熟懂事,
家mm好福氣,預祝她進入理想的大學!:)
XL彩虹 回複 悄悄話 真的是好懂事的孩子,比俺女兒大一歲但寫得文章像大人一樣成熟:) 為你們驕傲和祝她進入一所她喜歡的學校!!
womaninhome 回複 悄悄話 回複 'Armweak' 的評論 : 謝謝你對我一貫的支持鼓勵。我女兒覺得上個加州大學就好,不想上私校.
womaninhome 回複 悄悄話 回複 '圍觀生活' 的評論 : 謝謝圍觀大師的光臨和留言,希望女兒能夠心想事成。文學城州有不少你的粉絲,我也是一個呢。
womaninhome 回複 悄悄話 回複 '水沫' 的評論 : 謝謝美女作家的鼓勵,希望她的人生如你的吉言一樣成功,謝謝你真誠的祝福,也同
樣祝福你的孩子們。
womaninhome 回複 悄悄話 回複 'erdong' 的評論 : 謝謝爾東,你總是那麽善良和善解人意。
womaninhome 回複 悄悄話 回複 'bymyheart' 的評論 : 謝謝心姐的真誠的鼓勵,也抱抱心姐, 因為我們有著相同的命運。剛才去看了你的ZT文章,自閉兒與Siri, 很喜歡那篇文章。我也覺得我沒有替女兒想過,不知道她內心的這麽多掙紮和矛盾,現在知道了,感動,也覺得有點虧欠了她。我把很多責任交給她,沒有從她的角度著想,還是她自己想通了,真好。
womaninhome 回複 悄悄話 回複 'Lilac2003' 的評論 : 謝謝Lilac真誠的留言。
womaninhome 回複 悄悄話 回複 'lzr' 的評論 : 謝謝你,我沒有讀過那篇文章,大概很不錯。
womaninhome 回複 悄悄話 回複 'ravic' 的評論 : 謝謝你的讚美。
womaninhome 回複 悄悄話 回複 '空花水月' 的評論 : 謝謝空花水月,你的話很中肯,謝謝。
womaninhome 回複 悄悄話 回複 'nycman' 的評論 : 謝謝紐約男的誇獎。你太過獎了。我發去子女壇了。大多媽媽都喜歡這文章,隻有個別讀者懷疑文章的真實性,我懶得辯解。做父母的會希望自己孩子有自閉症的嗎?算了,不辯解了。

womaninhome 回複 悄悄話 回複 'bobby41' 的評論 : 謝謝你的誇獎。她的確是好孩子,我也意識到了。
womaninhome 回複 悄悄話 回複 '不愛熱鬧' 的評論 : 謝謝不愛熱鬧美女的留言和祝福,希望我女兒可以如願以償。我剛才去了你的博客,知道你有三個優秀孩子,還有兩個上了藤校的孩子,真羨慕你。
womaninhome 回複 悄悄話 回複 'nightrose' 的評論 : 他是我的責任義務,不工作也得照顧他。
womaninhome 回複 悄悄話 回複 '菲兒天地' 的評論 : 謝謝美麗的菲兒的誇獎,我覺得我女兒是真情的流露,所以文章才感動了你和我,我不是很會寫作,你寫得比我好多了。
看你的女兒後影,你女兒長得又高又苗條,我以為她也17歲了呢。等她申請時你當然可以問我,我會知無不言的。
Armweak 回複 悄悄話 這篇文章有讓孩子去大藤的水平。據說,很多孩子不想離開加州,那就拿著它申請斯坦福吧。也許這篇文章是孩子今後有出息的催化劑呢。
圍觀生活 回複 悄悄話 寫的真好,懂事的孩子。

祝錄取順利。
水沫 回複 悄悄話 這個女兒真了不起,小小年紀有這樣的心胸和思想,她一定會有一個非常美好和成功的人生。真心值得驕傲的孩子,羨慕你!
erdong 回複 悄悄話 感動,真是個好孩子!
bymyheart 回複 悄悄話 寫的真是好極了。我不僅是感動這個姑娘的文筆更是感受到她的仁愛成熟和智慧。謝謝分享,祝福你們全家。因為我也有一個自閉症的兒子和一個大他好幾歲的女兒,孩子們心裏經曆的東西大人有時並沒有完全體會到,她們的敏感接受欣賞對命運的公平的評判期待超過了我自己想象的成熟智慧。再一次感謝你。
Lilac2003 回複 悄悄話 隻讀一半文章,就已經淚奔.你有一個了不起的女兒.願神祝福你女兒和家人.

最喜歡這句話!

"success is not defined by one’s own self-satisfaction but through accepting the differences of others"
lzr 回複 悄悄話 這似乎和中國高考父亡母亡的文章有異曲同工之妙.
ravic 回複 悄悄話 高中生有這樣的理解和見地很難得!
空花水月 回複 悄悄話 My little brother Johnny is my beacon of hope ━ the hope that people can learn to accept our differences, big or small. He made me see that there are things I cannot control, and that I should embrace them if they come. ?

Now, after meeting people of different backgrounds, I can see that success is not defined by one’s own self-satisfaction but through accepting the differences of others. Every time I am with Johnny now, I feel as though he is not just my brother but my teacher of tolerance, showing that it is possible for people of different abilities to live with each other.

讚!冒泡上來恭喜你有個智慧而成熟的女兒,這是她人生最寶貴的財富。
nycman 回複 悄悄話 "I am grateful that I come from a family with a wonderful little brother who has taught me more than I could ever ask for, even if it makes my life is a bit unique."
這是我見到最好的申請大學文章。恭喜有這麽出色的女兒。
最後一句簡直是精神之光的升華。
建議ZT到子坦,讓虎媽推爸們受受教育!
bobby41 回複 悄悄話 看得出她是個好女兒
不愛熱鬧 回複 悄悄話 我也淚奔,真是好孩子!祝她心想事成!
nightrose 回複 悄悄話
如果你女兒去外地上大學,誰來照顧你兒子呢?
菲兒天地 回複 悄悄話 我家的女兒小了兩年,我還不是太搞得清申請大學的事情,以後來向你請教,但我覺得college admission 的人一點會看重她這篇揉和了個人經曆和情感進去的好文,光有好文彩和光有感人的故事都還不夠,要像她這樣兩者兼備才行。她是不是也遺傳了你的會寫?:)
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