兒子給出的難題, 懇請老貓及有經驗的人士給些建議. 多謝!

事情發生在春假之前，也就是三月份。我兒子在學校的樂隊課間休息時，走到他左後方去和同學說話，另一個同學坐在他背後，手裏拿著小提琴的弓，弓的前端正好放在了我兒子的腳後，我兒子後退一步正好踩在弓尖上，把那位同學的弓尖踩斷了。樂隊上課是大課，當時很多人，大家都在講話。我兒子當時不知道那位同學的弓在他腳後。事後兒子回家沒有告訴我們，一周後老師給兒子一個單子，告訴我們兒子踩壞了同學的弓子，讓我們與對方家長聯係。我們馬上給那位同學的家長寫了單子，告訴他們我們剛剛知道這件事，並附上我們的聯係電話及電子信箱，希望他們與我們聯係，商量 解決辦法。

昨天，也就是一個月後，那位同學的家長送來一封信， 並附了一張replacement appraisal。上麵寫道：“To replace bow/copy of violin/France Pernambucco Silver mounted/ value $500”。

信的內容如下：

Good Day Mr.Xxxx,

I am writing to you on the unfortunate situation of having the bow that Xxxx(我兒子) stepped on replaced. I appreciate you sending your contact information to me earlier. I had obtained an appraisal from a luthier (violin maker” for the replacement cost of the bow shortly after the incident. I chose not to forward the information as it was just before Spring Break and felt that it should not disrupt your family’s vacation time.

The luthier advised that the bow in un-repairable due to the location of the break. Had it been closer to the frog of the bow it may have been repairable but the tip is so slim and takes so much stress and added weight from any repair would greatly affect the playability of the bow.

The appraisal on the bow is $500. This bow has been in my family for approximately 32 years. You may ask why Xxxx(他兒子) had such a valuable bow is because his graphite bow that was valued at over $200 was taken from his violin case earlier that month and as an interim he was required to lock his case and was given this bow until his bow would be replaced. Needless to say the month was a very expensive month for us, as far as, instrument costs.

The bow was one of my 2 personal bows and it is my preferred so I felt it would be more playable for Alan. The only other bow I had was valued over $800 (back in 2000), is a much heavier bow than Xxxx (他兒子) would use, and was not an option.

I trust that you appreciate our loss and we know that the incident was an unfortunate one. I thank you in advance for your prompt response.


Sincerely,

Xxxx



我的問題是：

1．我兒子在這件事上應當應該負多少責任？
2．我們應當如何解決這件事？
3．我們是否應該問他們要那個弓也去做一個appraisal？
4．如果雙方談不攏要上法庭，情況會怎樣？我們應當做些什麽準備？

謝謝各位的建議和幫助!