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兒子的文科一直不好。從小學一年級就被語文老師天天要求跟我通話，說他到現在26個字母都識不全。

到了二年級，學校頭一次組織MAP test，而且還是一年要測三次的那種。雖然他的數學一直都是95%或是99%。可是MAP的閱讀真是一言難盡。二年級始終徘徊在45%，到了三年級，到了60%多一點。那還是我在他homeschooling，就是學校網課教學的時候，天天追著他做一篇閱讀理解。而且兒子做閱讀跟要殺了他一樣，一篇閱讀要讀好久，心思總靜不下。一課的Wordlywise3000，女兒不到一個小時就完成了，兒子則磨磨蹭蹭幾個小時也做不完，而且總是不一會兒逗狗狗玩，就是上廁所，吃東西，或是打一會兒遊戲，弄到最後我隻能放棄讓他閱讀，因為時間實在耗不起。到了四年級，我又琢磨著讓他聽audio book，也是堅持了不到半學期，因為遊泳訓練繁重，每天晚上9點之後，連聽書都懶得聽。在抓孩子語文補差還是數學提高上，我還是選擇了數學提高。雖然我也擔心孩子的閱讀，但是LD說他小時候就這樣，小學時候閱讀一直算比較差的，等到了初中就突然開竅，突飛猛進。後來寫作啥的，在學校裏也不算差，算中上top10%的水平。

我將信將疑，四年級末的時候，看到兒子的MAP閱讀增加到79%，覺得還行吧，至少有進步。

這次冬季的MAP，他居然考出91%的水平，讓我大跌眼鏡。他終於摘掉閱讀這個脫貧的帽子了。

 

這次中學六年級選課，女兒一開始跟我吵，不肯修這麽多的accelerated的課程。可是真不是我多管閑事啊，今天各科老師給的推薦選課表裏。除了social study，女兒的英文，數學，還有science，基本上都是最高一級，可以連跳兩級修課,文科閱讀寫作類似於8-9年的普通版水平。她的大部分閨蜜現在都在普通班上，一來是她們不想幸苦，她的朋友圈的女孩都是想成為學校裏最popular的女孩，心思應該不在學習上。然後LD頭一次介入，做閨女的思想工作，還寫了一封常常的信。

你們看看爸爸寫的挺理性的,也不知道管用不管用,她是否聽進去. 換了我,肯定又跟她爭的麵紅耳赤,威脅少給買衣服,小首飾,少做指甲...

 

Just wanted to know what you think of the poem.  Does it have relevance to your current situation?  

 

Being born with gifts is not always easy.  There is a lot expected of you because you can do some much good in the world.  I also felt under a lot of stress when I was young.  I remember when I decided to enter the science fair and make a computer game. I had so much to learn and no one except my dad knew anything about writing code at that time.  I had to mostly teach myself.  But after all the struggle to find out I won, even though I was only in 6th grade, was fantastic.  And to this day it's a moment of pride that I remember fondly even though I have accomplished so many other things in my life.

 

I do not remember the parties I went to, or the social events I attended at your age, but I remember accomplishing that.  Why?  Because I had to work for it.  If you win a medal every day they become trash, but if you have to work all year like you did to win at the Gulf swimming championships, that medal means so much more.

 

Challenges in life are what give you a chance to grow and your life purpose.  True happiness comes from a purposeful life.  Growing to meet new challenges will be the point in time you remember when you're old like me.  Do not let fear make decisions for you, and remember all good things are on the other side of fear.

 

Love,

Dad