我google了一會兒，所有的都不是絕對的

我原先以為法律上，隻有女人有特權得到贍養費，其實不是的，主要看雙方經濟狀況 （alimony can still be awarded permanently, but it also serves to "get people back on their feet" after a divorce — not just women, but men as well. ）。你太太現在有工作，雖然公司現在沒有賺錢，但應該不會總是依賴你。Alimony is basically dependent upon the paying spouse's ability to pay and the receiving spouse's need for support.

每個婚姻的情況都不一樣，you should speak with a mediator and/or family law attorney to work those issues out.

還有，我不知道想的對不對，我覺得你現在的律師說的不對，除非我們對‘需要付給她很多錢’理解不同。男人離婚也要過日子，你們過不下去不是你一個人的問題，怎麽可能誰提出離婚，誰就吃虧呢？你多問幾個律師不好麽？