回複 'elfie' 的評論 : You have made a mistake. Unlike painting, people's sense of elegance and attractiveness are not something you can have or have without. You can pursue depth and contrast in painting, but as a person if you can deliberately show a sense of high-end and attractiveness, that's just pretending. In the same way, deliberately being humble and being yourself is also pretending. So, just be yourself. As for whether you have a sense of high-end and attractiveness, that is other people's feelings, and it actually has nothing to do with you. My article only objectively explains where the sense of luxury and attraction come from. Whether these two points should be achieved is beyond the scope of my explanation.
你搞錯了一件事,跟繪畫不一樣,人的高級感和吸引力不是你想有就有,想沒有就沒有的。畫畫你可以去追求深度和反差,但做人如果你可以刻意的去表現出高級感和吸引力,那就是裝。同樣道理,刻意的去謙虛的做好自己也是裝。所以,就是簡單的做自己就好,至於有沒有高級感和吸引力,那是別人的感覺,跟你自己其實沒什麽太大的關係。我的文章隻是客觀的闡述高級感和吸引力從何而來,是不是應該做到這兩點,不在我的闡述範圍之內。
elfie 發表評論於
I don't care whether I am attractive or not. Actually I shouldn't be attractive to just anyone out there because I am married and don't want to have a date with anyone. Most people like me don't need to be attractive or don't want to be attractive. It plays a negative role if you're very attractive to passers-by.
Just be yourself in modesty. That's it. Not dress in rags or pjs, be normal.