i didn't get ur pts. all u said was true. but..

how do i relate it to Maria? Should she earn less, become less pretty, marry an N times half mm guy, marry a no-money, love more or less his hubby? My point was that she was what Bob meant that lady to "become", when she becomes, however, Bob won't marry her or the other way around, she won't marry him.
Elaborate more pls.