回複：How much arguement is too much? (圖)

I don’t believe couples can live together without arguments, which must be boring to death or their relationship is already dead. But if the blow-up happens every day, it is not a good sign either. 2 or 3 times week is quite normal and healthy. Arguments can also be a good way to take off what is loaded heavily on our mind the same way we go to gym to burn out that extra energy. We don’t want our feelings backed up inside to the exploding point, some sort of emotional constipation. ;)

Constructive arguments from time to time can spice up your life, make it interesting and enhance the mutual understanding. For me, “constructive argument” means not to argue over trivia, not to repeat the same issue, stick to the current problem (don’t go way back into the history), and think "we" instead of that little “me”. So you two can find what’s in your heart to make compromise. Isn’t relationship a process of fighting and compromising? Most times, there is no black or white, no right or wrong, just gray areas.

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• I don't know what emotional constipation is, but -tigersclaws- ♂ (49 bytes) () 11/30/2009 postreply 21:56:06

• 嗯，then you start to write sonnets for 鷹妹 :) -lilac09- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/30/2009 postreply 23:43:50

• 哈哈哈, now you know why it took me a long time to write a -tigersclaws- ♂ (7 bytes) () 12/01/2009 postreply 08:10:24

• how about a 兒歌? -23731241- ♂ (0 bytes) () 12/01/2009 postreply 08:49:09

• 兒歌's the product when he has a diarrhea. 平均是16年1瀉. -戲雨飛鷹- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/01/2009 postreply 09:03:58

• LOOKS LIKE 兒歌 比 SONNET 更難得 -23731241- ♂ (0 bytes) () 12/01/2009 postreply 09:09:07

• yeah, after the diarrhea, the lethargy makes him take -戲雨飛鷹- ♀ (29 bytes) () 12/01/2009 postreply 09:20:35

• BEING PRODUCTIVE NEED 好的身體。JUST別忘了WORK OUT -23731241- ♂ (0 bytes) () 12/01/2009 postreply 09:37:01

• ask Lilac -梅石瑩玉- ♀ (151 bytes) () 12/01/2009 postreply 09:41:16

• 回複：ask Lilac -lilac09- ♀ (77 bytes) () 12/01/2009 postreply 10:47:47

• 回複：回複：How much arguement is too much? (圖) -梅石瑩玉- ♀ (224 bytes) () 12/01/2009 postreply 06:33:54