回複：How much arguement is too much? (圖)

I don’t believe couples can live together without arguments, which must be boring to death or their relationship is already dead. But if the blow-up happens every day, it is not a good sign either. 2 or 3 times week is quite normal and healthy. Arguments can also be a good way to take off what is loaded heavily on our mind the same way we go to gym to burn out that extra energy. We don’t want our feelings backed up inside to the exploding point, some sort of emotional constipation. ;)

Constructive arguments from time to time can spice up your life, make it interesting and enhance the mutual understanding. For me, “constructive argument” means not to argue over trivia, not to repeat the same issue, stick to the current problem (don’t go way back into the history), and think "we" instead of that little “me”. So you two can find what’s in your heart to make compromise. Isn’t relationship a process of fighting and compromising? Most times, there is no black or white, no right or wrong, just gray areas.