APAD: Put your nose out of joint

Meaning:

   Hurt your feelings or upset your plans.

 

Background:

 

   This phrase is quite old and was used by Barnaby Rich in His Farewell to

   Militarie Profession, 1581:

 

     "It could bee no other then his owne manne, that has thrust his nose so

     farre out of ioynte."

 

- www.phrases.org.uk [edited]

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Google AI's example

 

   "When Sarah got the promotion instead of John, it put John's nose out of

   joint." This means John was upset and annoyed because he wanted the

   promotion, and Sarah getting it made him feel disregarded.

 

matched exactly my experience. I was working for a chip shop around 2010, and

one day they promoted a junior colleague with IMO more hustle than competence to

lead the new team, carved out of the larger group, and thereby be my manager. It

took me by surprise and put my nose out of joint as at the time I myself felt

deserving to be promoted in some way. I protested and they agreed to keep me as

an independent contributor. In three months, I jumped ship. Looking back, I was

no leadership material and should've done nothing.