You are sick and you need help
1. I think she asked same question before and did not get the answer she wanted.
2. If you hired your mother to watch the kids, then you are hiring illegal workers which subject to fine and possible jail time. Either way you lost.
3. For what I can tell, She might be a jobless man who is wearing a female underwear in his bedroom typing on a old computer.
You are sick and you need help.