don't say or do stupid thing in US to your wife

I had similar experience as your wife. My hu*****and had several times putting kichen nife on my neck threatening to kill me even he would go to jail just because i didn't want to be as his legs in English writing as he wanted. I want help me to stand up by himself, not just do for him. He wanted me do it myself for him. Chinese men are more likely to have DV, especially from north part of China. They don't know to respect their wives.