Find a good lawyer

Find a good lawyer. Do you have the legal service through your company? If you do have, you will save a lot of lawyer fee. Talk to your HR department, you may find out some information. For the lady, you may charge her steal your money or other term. Talk to your lawyer. Also talk to people around you and search internet. Talk to your parent. Don't isolate yourself. I isolated myself when I have the difficult time. I think I did something wrong. We should be open. Don't be weak, show your encouragement. Also talk to us, if you want to later on.

If you still love your husband, divorce him is the best way to do now. First, you have the power to arrange your future life. Secondly, you can protect yourself and your kids more. Thirdly, if he wants come back later (I say if), and you still want to accept him, you are welcome to do it; but at that time, you will have the powder to decide what to do. Take the power into your own hand. Be strong, and be smart. We are very traditional Chinese lady,and we understand you and also what you did for your family. You are not alone. Be strong and smart.