在職場對自己最不公平的就是讓一件件小事無聲無息地過去

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- 對自由想象同學的帖子的看法

你可以與人為善,也可以與人方便,更可以寬容,but nobody should ever take that as granted, your boss, your peers, or those who report to you. 

 

 

Because of different interests and/or personalities, there will always be disagreement, argument, and even fights at work. Avoiding fight sometimes is an open invitation of more abuse, and people will take advantage of you more frequently. Then again, you don't want to be seen as someone who argues over pettiness all the time.

In my opinion, it's very important to pick your fight wisely and early. You can be friendly and flexible all you want to, and you should be. But when it comes to principles, no matter how trivia the matter seems to be, you want to make a point and take a stance. You collect all the evidence, and sort through your thoughts. Start the fight in a civilized way, but make a great deal of it, in front of all the interest parties. You are sending out a strong message - you are a nice person, but you don't take BS from anyone. Don’t forget to dish out a joke on yourself at the endJ

“If you want peace, prepare for war”. Trust me, they will think twice next time, if you react early and calculated.

You should never, never let small bad things done to you, gradually piling on. Because at some point, you can't take it any more, then you will break out, and people will be wondering - gee, over such a minor thing? Nobody will be there to listen to your whole story, how that guy constantly takes advantage of you over the years/months.

Right now, I guess taking credit of your work without acknowledging you properly, and deleting your data, purposely, are big deals, and you should voice your dissatisfaction loudly. But remember, your opinion only weighs as much as your position. As you said, that project is your baby, so all it matters is at this stage, how much do they need you for this project? It’s going to be tough.

Lessons are only learned in a hard way, unfortunately.

Good luck!

 

 

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嗯,說得挺對的。free_imagination 缺乏鬥爭經驗 -Eveline- 給 Eveline 發送悄悄話 Eveline 的博客首頁 (270 bytes) () 12/14/2012 postreply 13:33:46

What can you do about it if -濫竽衝數- 給 濫竽衝數 發送悄悄話 濫竽衝數 的博客首頁 (151 bytes) () 12/15/2012 postreply 06:35:16

核心利益不能讓步,其他的還是中庸一點 -周遊列國逍遙人生- 給 周遊列國逍遙人生 發送悄悄話 周遊列國逍遙人生 的博客首頁 (0 bytes) () 12/14/2012 postreply 14:42:05

Well said. -朱珠兒- 給 朱珠兒 發送悄悄話 (87 bytes) () 12/14/2012 postreply 14:48:52

樓主,我推薦你看本書 the secret -為烈士注冊- 給 為烈士注冊 發送悄悄話 為烈士注冊 的博客首頁 (0 bytes) () 12/14/2012 postreply 14:56:39

寬容是強者的特權,是勝者的秀。 -一千零六夜- 給 一千零六夜 發送悄悄話 一千零六夜 的博客首頁 (172 bytes) () 12/15/2012 postreply 06:09:12

如果不寬容成了弱者的特權,那才是噩夢的延續哈。適時的放棄一些,同時爭取另外一些,可能更為他人接受。 -為烈士注冊- 給 為烈士注冊 發送悄悄話 為烈士注冊 的博客首頁 (0 bytes) () 12/15/2012 postreply 10:38:46

回複:在職場對自己最不公平的就是讓一件件小事無聲無息地過去 -frankwang- 給 frankwang 發送悄悄話 frankwang 的博客首頁 (491 bytes) () 12/15/2012 postreply 22:50:13

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